AIBU DSS (8) Pee. Everywhere.

[frankiefumbles]

Am I being unreasonable to expect an eight year old boy to be able to pee directly in the toilet most of the time?

Or, as a close second to mop the pee from the toilet seat (or floor) if he misses?

DH says it's normal for boys to miss the toilet. I understand that (after all DH himself apparently can't do it because his "pipe is too long"...anyone smell BS???...but at least DH mops up the missed pee). DSS doesn't know DH also misses, so it's not that he is copying.

I understand that flushing is not always usual for child. I also thought that dabbing "the end" was normal to stop drips but DH doesn't do this and clearly nor does DSS if the lack of paper is anything to go by. I've spoken to my mother and my dad never does this, my ex never left pee all over the place, and that's before we think about DSS!!!

How do I prevent this from happening with DSS? Do I have to check the toilet after DSS has been and send him back to clean it if he's missed? Or is that unreasonable too? I've highlighted that he's missed and I've asked him nicely to mop up if he does miss.

I'm fed up wiping pee. I suppose it might feel different if it's your own child but tbh I find it totally disgusting. I can't ask DSS's mother because she will take it as an insult.

By 8 yo he should really be able to aim IME and should certainly be able to clean up after himself.

I’d speak to him kindly about the importance of cleaning up and show him how (he may not have to do this in his Mum’s house).

You can but floating targets (like ping pong balls with faces) for boys to learn on - that might be something to consider.

(And yes your DP is talking nonsense).

Thanks @Cavender. I'm certainly not intending to shout at him or tell him off. We have got a few different rules here compared to "mummy's house" which include showering and washing hands before and after eating, so I'm guessing maybe personal hygiene is a bit less of a concern at hers.

Who knows, I can only guess from what DSS says and we all know children can fib - he said to us a few weeks ago that he only has a shower once a week, and that it's when he gets home from our house because his mum says our house/car is dirty so he must wash 😂 Thanks mummy! Either that or the DSS is an even more creative fibber than I thought 😉

Is it also normal for a boy child to wash their hands after touching their bits to pee? I realise I need to go slowly and only look at one thing at a time, but it's all a learning curve. I'm sure I wasn't cleaning up this much pee two years ago...

It's normal lol my nephew is 8 and still misses, my DS is 5 so he's still learning DH also misses sometimes but like you said, my DH also cleans up his own mess

My 8 yo misses often. If he’s sprayed all over the floor I make him go back in and clean it up. He usually makes a big fuss about it but does do it.

frankie yes it’s normal for boys to wash their hands afterwards. I know full grown men who aren’t good at this but from what I can see for DS and all his friends they all wash their hands.

I also know people who only bath their kids once a week so he may be telling the truth about that.

Goodness! Teach him to pee sitting down! Why on earth are boys still being taught to pee standing up in this day and age?

www.babble.com/kid/10-reasons-why-you-should-teach-your-sons-to-pee-sitting-down/

www.curejoy.com/content/which-is-healthier-for-men-peeing-standing-or-sitting/