Sorry. I’m just too tired...

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To everything. Every invite, every party, play date just bloody everything. I leave the house 3/4 times a week to top up groceries. I spend 4 hours a day when ds naps cleaning and doing laundry etc. Ds is 9 months and healthy and happy but considers 1am-3am getting up time and I’m lucky if I’m in bed before midnight as I have a teenager doing exams and 5 peoples laundry/ meals to sort. I pay £100 a week for a childminder to take him to various activities because I’m too tired ( although not a fan of those type of things) I have a wardrobe full of size 8 clothes which will probably never fit me again if I can’t shift 2 stone of leftover baby weight but where can I find the energy. How do people do it? Coffee gets me through the morning till about 12 then I just want to eat and sleep. I am literally an angry , hungry zombie all afternoon. I think the stress is bringing on an early menopause since I suffer hot flushes, night sweats and severe brain fog too.. 33 years old and ready for a retirement home.

No advice but you're not alone, i'm a hungry, angry zombie too. My DS is nearly 11 months and his getting up time is around 3am, always has been. He settles back to sleep around 5:30, just in time for me to get up for work

Lightsong yep, that was me for a couple of months. I had to give up work ( well actually had a breakdown one day and then just never went back) after having 6 hrs sleep in 3 days. I’m getting harassed about going back to work at the moment and it actually makes me cry when they nag about it because I know I just can’t. You are amazing for managing to go to work .

Online shopping.
Teenagers and adults can do their own laundry and feed themselves.
Sleep train.

Easier said than done, I know, but where you are isn’t working.

Managing to go to work has come at cost for me though, I usually end up in bed by 8pm so that I can function the next day, gone are the days of staying up with DP.

On the plus side, it really doesn't last forever, DD was regularly sleeping through before she hit 2. Hang on in there, it will get better.

Thanks lightsong I shall hang in there, don’t have much choice really do I? Sound advice pansies but dd has sen of sorts and has meltdowns and will most likely tell me to go fuck myself if I ask her to do more than the very basics for herself. The other one and dp will have a go at domestic things but are basically hopeless and I end up having to redo it or get sick of waiting for them to do I just get on with it. Will research sleep training though. It’s now 1pm so I’m half way there. Shan’t be getting dressed today though even though ds has had two baths and is on his second outfit little sod.

Good luck. You sound great and very caring, but something really has to give and it shouldn’t be your sanity.

Also, your DP and neurotypical teen aren’t useless at domestic stuff - it’s not like passing grade 8 piano or A-level maths - most anyone can do the domestic shit - they can’t be arsed because they know you’ll do it.

Hang in there OP. It will all get better as soon as the sleeping improves.

In the mean time, maybe you need to lower your standards? Four hours a day on cleaning and laundry is far too much!!