5 yo not listening. Teacher co low level disruption (giddy, chatty etc) in class

[caronc21]

Hi any advice would be appreciated. My 5yo son is driving me mad. It's a daily struggle to get him to do anything without having to ask 3+ times. Nothing wrong with his hearing if u whisper about sweets in another room he hears. But teacher has mentioned it a few times calling it "low level disruptive" "giddiness and chatty". She's happy to deal with it in school but states she would have to say his name in class more than any others and I think I'm seeing the impact of that on my little boy. He's very intelligent and is in top groups but she says he isn't finishing his work and it's constant reminders to get him to do so. I have tried reward charts, reasoning with him, counting etc Don't want the issue to escalate but don't know what to do now

When is his birthday? How long has he been in school?

December so he's middle of the year. He started Sept 17 and was in nursery the previous year. He was more than ready for school no social issues until now that is.

Don’t they all need a lot of reminding at that age? Dd started in reception last year and when it was time to leave the house I would have to remind her 5-10 times to put her jumper on, then 5-10 times for shoes and then 5-10 times for coat. (My hands were busy with the younger ones otherwise I would have dressed her myself). The number of distractions she found along the way was truly incredible.
Now, in year 1, she’s been through a developmental leap really recently (literally last fortnight) and now if I say ‘time to go, jumper, coat and shoes on’ she magically appears, moments later, miraculously wearing all three! There must be an age/development thing.

As for the disruption in class, surely he is just bored and trying to liven the place up a bit? It’s not like he’s being mean to others or aggressive or anything actually bad. IMO small children shouldn’t be cooped up in a classroom so young. Probably most of them would learn more by being active and it seems the more active kids get in trouble for basically being normal kids. I remember my dd telling me who was “naughty” and who was “good” in her class. The naughty kids list was basically all the boys minus a couple of the quieter ones! I figured that just meant the girls were better at sitting still and not annoying the poor teacher.

No experience/advice but I guess to help prevent the tellings off affecting his self esteem, is there could be something he likes doing after school where he can roam free, not get into trouble and feel good? Maybe something outdoors? I have a ds who is younger. He finds it much easier to behave as asked with a daily romp outdoors.

Thank you. Yeah I agree that penning them all in a classroom so young isnt great it's the fact that it's only him that can't concentrate or follow instructions is worrying me. Don't want him being labelled troublesome. Mummy worries 😭