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Mumoftwocheekychaps · 28/01/2018 20:17

I'm a lone parent and my boys have regular time with their dad every week. A couple of weeks ago my son (aged 11) wouldn't stop playing on the computer when I told him to. I gave him a few mins to think about it and reminded him that the consequences of not following house rules are no access to devices and no screen time for 24 hours. He still wouldn't stop so I switched off the Wi-Fi and told him no devices or screen time for 24 hours. He kicked off big time and became very disrespectful. My other younger son (aged 9) was behaving well so I decided my time was best spent with him. During my time upstairs with younger son my older son decided to hide my mobile phone and then announced very proudly that I'd never find it. I was so angry at him and didn't really know what to do next. He was very smug and told me with a smirk that I didn't deserve it back and now I'd know how he feels when I take away his devices.

I'm keen to know what other parents would've done in this scenario.

My phone was on silent so I couldn't call it to make it ring. I needed my phone for work purposes and I had no idea where he hid it. I literally turned the house upside down ... much to his amusement!

I felt I had lost control as a parent and he had the upper hand! Shock

I dished out every threat I could think of that I knew I could carry through. He just laughed and said he didn't care cos it was worth the fun!

Little monkey!!! Grin

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Eitak1 · 01/02/2018 03:39

My 2 cents worth:
It’s hard we’re living in a world where we need to be switched on.
However I believe we need to make sure that we do not disconnect ourselves from the really world, or we miss out on our lives, it it hugely important. This is what we have to teach our kids.
Yes you can have your devices.
But maybe explain, my job is to help you become the best person, the best version of you you can be.
Which I know is what you want too.
We know that too much time on devices is highly detrimental to your brain and will put a limit on your reaching your potential.
I do this actually because I love you & want you to be the best.
I am not saying you can’t go on your devices, but you need to be aware of how long and what your doing on it, & importantly when it is time to turn it off and reconnect with the world.
But it’s your decision.
I do this because I love you & I hope that you love yourself enough too.

But don’t beat yourself up, your doing the best you can with what you’ve got.

Live with love.

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