please help, this has worried me, tell me its normal development behaviour.

[shouldibeworried]

DH and myself were drying dts (3) after a bath yesterday, they were half dressed, dt1 just had pants on at this time and we were tickling them, when dt1 pulled down the front of her pants and said to me go on gon tickle there, I was horrified and said no, she never mentioned again, and has never done it before, should I be worried about this? I have seen ds (6) before tickle thier bums, but not the front iykwim, could it just be that he has befor during innicent play?

She might just have discovered herself that it feels nice - at 3, she won't really understand that it's different to being tickled anywhere else I wouldn't think. DS(4) tugs himself quite innocently in the bath, getting dressed, etc, and I just talk to him about some things being private but I try not to make him feel that what he's doing is wrong. I don't think you should be worried - it's natural for little ones to do it just because they like how it feels!

my advice is never mention it again unless she does or she'll think it's a big deal - and i'd really try to avoid showing her you were horrified [she could get a complex]- it's totally normal and just needs a gentle nooo we don't tickle there. if your ds1 has been doing this then i'm sure it's innocent and i tend to go for don't do that it'll hurt as opposed to it's rude!

In my experience this is normal. As everyone else has said, forget all about it.