Clingy baby

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Hey, my DD who is nearly 11 weeks old, has over the last 2-3weeks become very clingy towards me, and it's breaking my heart to see how down my DH gets when the DD he adores is "rejecting" him whenever I'm not there.
We've had a bit of a stressful few weeks as just before Christmas, DD was producing blood and mucus in her nappies which lead to her being diagnosed with cow's milk protein allergy. As I'm mix feeding it's meant that I've had to get my head around being dairy free and she's had to get used to the special formula. Feels like we're finally getting somewhere as nappies have improved over the last week, but now she's in this clingy phase where only I seem to be able to comfort and settle her. She won't take a dummy and is using the boob for her comfort.
As I said before it's really upsetting to see DH getting down about it, but also tiring for me to be the main focus all the time. Feels like I can't go anywhere for fear of her getting into a crying fit.
Please tell/reassure me that other babies have been like this? And this is just a phase that she'll grow out of soon?!!

Aww dear of her, having such a poorly tummy at such a young age. She needs comfort at the moment for sure!
To answer your questions,
1.yes its a phase, everything is. She will likely have times in the future when she will prefer daddy and rhe shoe will be on the other foot!
2.to some extent daddy can accept it and make himself more preferable to her by using your smell. Either sleep with a blanket or lovie in your bed for a few nights or use a top or dressing gown you've been sleeping in to put on daddys lap and make him seem more familiar to her. Over time she will grow to like daddys smell too :) however he should ideally develop his own parenting style (ways to comfort her, play, hygiene tasks etc) and not just copy you, that will not help

1. Get daddy to give her every feed you can, maybe even express milk for him to give to her as she may prefer it and she may notice that daddy doesn't have any!

4.Sit her on daddy and when he is fussing and feeding heryou and dad both make eye contact with her and both fuss her so she will see that although shes on daddys knee, mummy is still nearby, rather than dash off to do things upon handing her over. 5.Yes babies are like this, its totally normal. After I stopped bf ds2 my husband did all the feeds so I could be free and recover my sanity for a month or so. When I started to do early morning feeds again my baby did like me still but missed daddy, so I would lay daddy's (very stinky!) dressing gown on my lap and he would instantly relax! Some babies form very strong attachments by this age. It's a positive sign and says a lot about the excellent care she must have been recieving from you :) My two pence and i hope it helps though i'm no expert :)

Sorry if I sound mean but your DH is being over-sensitive.

My DS adored my DH as a baby and completely rejected me when DH was around. We just laughed about it - and I used to go off and have a break while DH couldn't get away from the clingy baby. Now at age 6 DS prefers me - for now. Your DH should focus on making things easier for you if you are feeling drained rather than feeling sorry for himself.

No advice because we're in the and situation. Dd is 11 weeks today and for the last week won't let Dh hold her. It's hard because Dh would love to be more involved but she's not having it.

She's ebf, but I'm now expressing one bottle per day so that Dh can feed it to her. Hopefully this passes soon.

Thank you for the advice and opinions. Maybe I'm being a bit sensitive and reading too much into the situation, DH says it doesn't bother him, but his face and behaviour every time LO kicks off, says different to me. I would feel so much better if this phase could just pass quickly . Will definitely give your suggestions a try to help move things along quicker. Many thanks again.