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Teaching my twins to amuse themselves whilst I'm busy

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Wordy15 · 09/01/2018 15:38

I have 2.9 year old twin boys (non-ID).
I have been lucky enough to stay at home with them as a full-time SAHM and I am at home with them all week apart from 3 mornings a week at nursery. DH works from home :) so can help sometimes as needless to say, I’m pretty knackered. Pre-kids, I was a team leader in a busy office.
Thing is, I think I have shot myself in the foot by constantly entertaining them for the last couple of years.
When we are at home they very rarely pick something up and play independently with it or get ‘into’ something and I end up trying to appease them both and stick the telly on so they sit and concentrate on something for a while.
True to little boys at this age, they have a very short attention span so anything I plan to do with them last 20 seconds a time. The day is very long!
DH and I are the only ones who care for them due to our Mum's health/ages.
They are talking lots and we play games like chase, lots of cars, soft play and reading etc and I’m not worried about their development but I feel this constant guilt that I should be doing this that and the other with them ALL the time.
They play well together with some bickering naturally. I think as there are two and they are my first, I am a bit of a helicopter parent but they really do whine at me if I try to sit and do something like reading near them.
They will be off to nursery full time in March but I’m struggling til then!

Any tips to encourage more independent play? I’m doing my own head in haha. My mum and MIL say I need to practice leaving them to it with some toys etc :)

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Capelin · 09/01/2018 19:39

You can certainly try leaving them with some toys and letting them play without you. But tbh I would say that it’s pretty normal to have to supervise them a lot at this age. Don't worry OP, this stage doesn’t last forever!

GlummyMummy · 09/01/2018 19:50

I've posted on another thread with a similar situation, though my child is 3.5. I rely on the TV to get any time to myself in a day, and then feel bad for too much screen time! Can totally sympathise as with twins it must be worse!!!! I've found my little one will play for a wee bit of time alone if I leave music or radio on in the room.

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