Terrible twos

[SomersetMummy1]

Hi
My daughter is 2 years 3 months and over Christmas has turned from a loving caring child to a monster

She pinches and hits me regularly and throws the most almighty strops when she can't get her own way

Any advice please on how to deal with her tantrums?

Did anything specific happen or do you think it's just age related?

The best advice I had about tantrums is that their world should be the same before as after, so no punishments for tantrumming (I honestly believe that at this age learning to control themselves is just a process they have to go through and sometimes they just can't help it)but no getting what they wanted either.

Last nights tantrum:

MIL was doing up her coat and she wanted her second bunny (it was upstairs and we said no) she started kicked off gently at first and MIL said she would get it when her coat was done up . She then started Banging head against the wall, kicking and going, rolling around.

We were in the hallway so there wasn't much space so I picked her up, took her to the living room and layed her down.

She then proceeded to go batshit crazy, like a tornado, lying on the floor, grabbing everything in sight, like a box of play food and a box of tea cups and just chucking everything and proceeded to do a screaming angel around the floor amongst all the toys

Her boot then fell of and she was screaming about her boot all whilst moving all around in some sort of possessed fashion.

MIL was chomping at the bit to pick her up I gave MIL the death stare and mouthed LEAVE HER

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In that situation (and we have been in that situation! )it would depend on what you were going out for/to do. If we needed to go out straight away more or less I would have put her under my arm and taken her out, into car /buggy and gone about the day, waited for her to calm down then just carried on as we were. It's embarrassing but most people have been there with their kids! If we didn't need to go out there and then I'd just let her get on with it, when she'd calmed down i'd say that we now needed to tidy up before she could get her second bunny.

My two have had some absolute hum dingers but using the calm, no winners attitude the phase of tantrums has been relatively short lived. Obviously mortifying at the time! Avoidance eis obvious best but when they freak out over the colour of the bloody sky (dd's most notable tantrum)what can you do!?

We did the section option. She eventually calmed down and came for a cuddle. It's just all very frustrating when she kicks off because she can't get her own way immediately

Something we've found useful is to give our two a bit of responsibility, so we bought them both a back pack each (let them chose)and it's their job to sort things like toys and a drink out for themselves when we're going out.

Hello,

I’m feeling very desperate but a little better reading this post.

My little boy is 3 in March and the terrible twos have only just hit. Me and his dad are co parenting and both have other relationships now.

We’ve been split for 1 and a half years so this isn’t why my son is acting up.

My little lad is learning at an age nearly two years above his actual age so he’s very forward and clever.

Since a few weeks before Christmas my little lad has started tantrums but was stopped and prevented via the naughty step, but these last three weeks have pushed me to my limits.

He throws himself on the floor, won’t look at me when I’m trying to explain why he’s upset me or what he’s done wrong, punches me, screams he doesn’t love/like/want me wants his other mummy which is his dads girlfriend they don’t allow him to call her mummy so he’s saying it too upset me, he told me today he wants to live with his dad not mummy because he doesn’t love me anymore, he would rather go on the naughty step than apologise.

I’ve tried ignoring him, shouting, smacking his bum, naughty chair/step, sending him to bed and taking toys off him but nothing it working at the moment.

He’s good as gold for everyone but me and his dad. He’s an angel at nursery and for my mum but the devil reincarnated for me!

He’s had me in absolute tears today I really don’t know what to do.

Help. !

Molly you can start a thread by going on the topic and clicking add. If you report your own post MNHQ might be able to start it for you. 'Parenting' or 'Behaviour and Development' might be best. You can literally cut and paste your post to start a thread of your own and get some advice.

Oh @MollyFreya that does sound tough!!!

My little girl has actually been very well behaved the past 3 days. Only a couple of minor instances

The ignoring trick when she is having a tantrum has been working and I've been giving her rewards.

Like; if you're a good girl this morning we are going to go to the park. But only if you're a good girl

And it seems to be working

I wish you the best of luck. As parenting is very trying some times. I've been in tears a lot the last fortnight xx