Attachment To Dad

[EdieBee]

Hello, my 20 month old girl is very attached to my husband at the moment and we're not sure how to deal with it anymore. We share the parenting and are careful to equally spend time with her but she now refuses to let me do anything with her. She will only have daddy do bedtime and if she wakes in the night she screams for dada and will only settle for him. My heart is absolutely broken and I have been quite upset recently! She is a very affectionate girl and loves giving kisses but she never kisses me and refuses if I ask! My husband is on nightshift at the moment and I'm having an awful time with her, it's taking me hours to get her back to sleep if she wakens. Would love some advice please or just to know if anyone else has gone through similar!

Please don’t be upset, your DD does love you and what’s shes doing is perfectly normal. I wouldn’t force the issue though in asking her to kiss you.

If she wakes in the night, will she understand that Dad is at work? Will she sleep if you put her in bed with you?

My almost 2 year old goes through phases of vastly preferring daddy. It hurts. Then phases of only wanting me. It’s tough but I’ve found it does pass and change over the months. Like everything else with this parenting lark - it will pass (I’m assuming!)

Thanks for your replies, I'm hoping it is just a phase like everything else! I try explain that daddy is at work but she is so distressed she doesn't seem to understand, she does eventually calm down and sleep with me but that's after about an hour of screaming and trying to wriggle away from me! x