Does she hate me?

[Hildabeast]

That sounds really stupid, but when left with me just whingy or bawling all the time. and is blissful at nursey. Feel so low about it. I know you scratch where it itches with mum, but it is really getting to me. Try to be so positive with her, she is 1yr. Any advice?

It doesn't sound stupid. I think all children are like this from time to time.
Has anything new/different happened at home ?

Ds is being particularly whingy and teary at the moment too.

they are always whingey/crying etc with mum because they can be. They are secure enough to be IYSWIM. My DS cries and moans when I change his nappy and apparantly allows CM to do it without a word, will ever crawl over and lay down for her. Little bugger.

Thanks princess, good to know I'm not alone especailly as am older anxious mum here. DH has been poorly too which does not help, V bad man flu with lots of deep sighs!

Thanks suejonez, you are right and I hope she is secure, I dont think I handle all this very well and been rather depressed.

Thats ok Hilda.

Ds is great at nursery then came out to me crying, because he was 'so pleased to see me and hadn't seen me all morning'. Cute but when added to lots of other bouts of crying it can be hard.
In last hour we've had tears over which room he wanted to watch tv in and tears because i told him he needed to wear a jumper. Its cold outside. He didn't want to.

I too have read that children are more likely to act up with mums than with others, and its actually a sign of security, because your daughter can show you these emotions, she does not have to put on a face, like at nursery, she knows you will love her and be there, so she has the confidence to explore these feelings with you.
Funny way of showing she loves you eh? But it makes sense.

When Ds is getting too whingy for me to bear and I'm on the verge of strangling him, I load him into the car/pushchair and go out to... anywhere basically. My mums, a friends with similar age DD, a walk, the park, down the roas to watch the trains go by...