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18momth old hits and pulls my hair but only when we’ve spent a lot of time with dad e.g holidays

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Liv86 · 30/12/2017 11:05

I’ve read a few things on here and have to say something similar happened at around the age of 1. But now when I think about it, it also corellated with when dad was on holiday with us.
My little boy is a very energetic, smart and funny and I love spending time with him. I don’t work a Monday so we can have just us day and it’s lovely. However, recently he’s atarted hitting, pulling my hair, frowning, not wanting to come near me and it always seems to be when we’ve spent a large amount of time as a family with dad there. Now dad is brilliant and really hands on and I love the relationship that they have. However, I really struggle emotionally as I feel rejected and I feel embarrassed in front of others as it’s like he hates me.
I think he is doing things for a reaction but I just don’t know how to deal with it as it just makes me cry.
He still only wants me to get him out of his cot on a morning and I always give him his milk and put him down on a night and he’s fine with that. It’s just awful as my husband is having the best Christmas with us all and I feel really sad. Silly really. So I just need some advice on how to deal with the bad behaviour and maybe just some reassurance that he doesn’t hate me haha

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 30/12/2017 19:10

There is no fault in this, it’s quite normal and is absolutely no reflection on how he feels about you. Have a read of this on hitting and please, don’t let him see you cry Smile

Rainatnight · 30/12/2017 21:27

We have quite a lot of hitting directed at both of us at the moment. It does feel awful.

I read this article and we started this approach as of today (so can't get tell you if it's successful or not!).

The reason I'm attracted to this is that I felt DD had somehow become interested in the 'drama' created by us getting cross. Not that she's manipulative, because I personally don't believe that such little children can be - but there may have been something in our reaction that she found interesting.

Could it be this way with you, especially if you're getting upset? That's a lot of power to hand to a little guy.

www.janetlansbury.com/2012/09/biting-hitting-kicking-and-other-challenging-toddler-behavior

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