Explaining same sex parents to a child

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My DS has come home from a party today asking a lot of questions after it has become apparent to us that both parents were same sex.
What should I tell him as I don't want him to start saying hurtful things to said child but at the same time am very cautious to say that "having 2 dads is normal". Stuck between a rock and hard place of not wanting to cause any offence and risk DS saying anything inappropriate but at the same time don't want to feed him pro same sex propaganda.

Any advice greatly appreciated thanks in advance

News flash.... Having two dads or two mums IS normal. There are all sorts of families in the world and that's really all you need to tell ds.
The only place you're "stuck" is in your own beliefs.

Propaganda?

I don't get it. Why would it not be normal to have two mums or two dads and what is normal anyway, just something society decides is the norm and this changes all the time. Propaganda? [shocked]

Whilst I personally disagree with same sex parenting at the same time I'm very much a passive person who would rather keep it to myself rather than cause any offence.

And yet you've started a thread about it??

I started a thread cause I had dilemma of how to explain this to a child

Whilst I personally disagree with same sex parenting at the same time I'm very much a passive person who would rather keep it to myself rather than cause any offence
Then you agree that others can be different and indeed there are all sorts of families in the world, and if this is true then maybe that's all you need to tell your child at this point. Maybe the part where you "don't agree with same sex parenting" can wait until your child is old/mature enough to have discussions about it without necessarily being affected by your own views.

How old is ds?
Your disagreement of same sex parenting is not likely to be well received if you encourage ds to hold the same views. So, for now, assuming ds is quite young I'd just go for a fairly bland "there are all sorts of families" route. Then, when he is a teenager you can have a more open and frank discussion about what you actually believe. At that age he'll be able to make up his own mind and he'll also be able to handle holding an unpopular belief without being rude to others about it.

Cross post with goodnews

Whatever your personal views OP, we live in a world where actually, it IS normal for some children to grow up in families with parents of the same sex (also in families with only one parent, families with co-parents living in different homes, families with grandparents in parenting roles). Can you tell your DS that there are lots of different sorts of families, and that people love each other , bicker, play, do the washing up and generally live their lives in all of them? All of that is simply factual.

Just be factual and say sometimes men marry men and women marry women. Same as explaining about other religions.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=ni8WkceZbSs

Basically say that there are lots of different families like they list here.

Just say that sometimes people have two dads or two mums. It's not complicated.

Think you're making a big deal over nothing. Dd has a few children in her reception class with same sex parents. a recent conversation went like this:

dd: 'X has two mummies'

Me: 'yes, some people have two mummies, some people have two daddies and some people, like you, have a mummy and a daddy. Some children just have one mummy or one daddy looking after them or might live with their grandma and grandpa. All families are different'

Dd: okay. Have I got swimming tonight?

Christ. Maybe I'll start a thread seeking advice on how I explain to my DD that some kids have total bigots for parents.

Earlylifecrisis's explanation should do you. But if you were in my circle of acquaintances, I'd want you to be honest about it with me so I could make sure we didn't have anything to do with you.

Actually, scratch my very last comment, I posted in anger. Obviously if we did know you and I knew what you're views were, it would be an opportunity to teach my DD about tolerance, different views, yaddeh yaddeh

I am a lesbian parent, and cake out when my daughter was 4 years old - it basically went
Me - “I love (insert female name) the same way I used to love daddy”
Her - “Will you get married?”
Me - “Hopefully one day!”
Her - “When you do IM being your bridesmaid and wear my flower dress”
Then she hugged me and skipped off to her nana to tell her that Mummy loves girls now.
Kids accept what they see, it’s adult reaction that changes their view of it so PLEASE do not express your own feelings towards the LGBT+ community in front of him.
When he is older and understands more then you can explain why you feel that way, and maybe he will agree with you after he’s made his own mind up.

I think OP has disappeared