Fussy eater! On the verge of breakdown ! Partner too judgemental

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My son is a fussy eater. MUMMY DON'T feed me peas only fries and I dont like green only yellow to I want to eat in a pink spoon not brown .It's a 1 hour task daily from feeding breakfast to lunch and dinner .My lo was underweight when born but is not on the 50 percent .Although he looks a little short when compared to other kids ( some have same height as his in nursery) , but my partner is very fussy about his eating habits .He is 4 years now and it seems as if I am THE ONE TO BE Blamed for this .My partner has extended this far by saying that I can't go back to work until he gets proper eating habits .I am nearly on the verge of breakdown and I dont know whom to seek help to.

There are some things you can try by tbh I'm more worried by your partners attitude which sounds like it bordering on abusive. you are both your son's parents and a decision about whether you work or not is not a question of 'being allowed'. Please speak to someone in RL lots of love xx

Another mum of fussy eater here you have my sympathy. It's not a reason to stay at home as lots of mums find that children eat better in childcare. It sounds like you could do with some family therapy as the eating has become a focus for all of you. Your GP could arrange through child psychology service.

Definitely another vote here for fussy eaters eating better when in childcare - exactly what my DS did! Ate just about everything put in front of him. I had a hard look at my own behaviour (and DH's) after reading some very helpful comments on here. I stopped standing over DS, gave a reasonable range of options, presented the food as others were going to have it; and really really tried to stop worrying about it. In the end DH took on the responsibility of cooking and if the situation became stressed then one or other of us would leave the room - it was always worse if we were both there! Once DS started eating in nursery it got a lot better - and we often made what they had done. See what's worked for others on here, go back to work (will probably make everyone feel better tbh), and please don't be hard on yourself (your child has two parents).