How long will it take for ds to stop asking for the dummy

[MrsBonato]

DS is 4. On his 4th birthday we decided together he would be giving up his dummy. He never had it at nursery and was mainly only having it at night, DH works away and when home he would give it to him more and obviously when he went again it would cause hell as I was firmly just for sleeping.

So now we are on night 5 sleeping without a dummy, one bad night where he cried for 2 hours, I was with him trying to distract him. But other than that he's been fine. Tonight DH is home. Ofc DS kicks off a bit more about wanting a dummy,I acknowledge that I know he does but we don't have them right now and here let's read this book and look at the funny monsters again...DH on the other hand is 'just give it to him and tell him he can only have it when I'm home'...like he actually believes firstly that DS is too stupid to just take in what he said and secondly like that is going to help or do anything getting the dummies gone! Anyway he asked for it more tonight and I'd have thought after 5 nights it would be getting easier?

Please, I realise this is really late for giving up dummies but when you have a pandering DH that just gives in at every cry it's been incredibly difficult to get this far.

Just gonna throw my personal opinion quickly, dummies shouldn't be used at all and this is a prime example why.

Okay so little one is gonna basically want it back for a very long time, its a comfort. Such as a comfort blanket or a teddy bear. Maybe try a new routine where you say the dummy fairy is going to take it away in 7 days, and on the 7th day place it under the pillow and take it during the night (basically the tooth fairy trick)... It might work it might not... Just an idea :3

It will get easier. Considering you’ve made it to day five, I wouldn’t go back now! Well done to making it to day five btw!!

Perhaps tell him that Santa will bring him an extra special present for giving up his dummy? Or the dummy fairy will leave him a gift?

I know how hard it is. DS had his until 3 and a half and DD still loves hers at 2 and a half. More so than DS ever did so I don’t think she’s gonna be easy to give it up!

Good luck! 😊

Hang in there- I think you're right to get a 4 year old to give them up. Did he hear the conversation about dummies that you had with your h? Sounds like it could have created a second wind of enthusiasm.