My son was spoilt a lot when he was younger by family as he was the only child for a while. So for years, the moaning and tantrums and selfish behaviour, I put it down to being spoilt and the fact I don't have much patience when he whines and I don't usually speak calmly and lovingly like some parents do. I don't shout but my frustration can be seen by ways like walking to another room away from him when I should sit and talk things through.
He's now 10 and I'm sure I'm not being sensitive but I feel lots if people don't like him. He can come across really rude and ask people I know questions like "why are your lips so big?" Or " why do you look fat on the tv?" This question was asked when we viewed his aunties wedding photos on the tv. I have explained many times that there are some things that are offensive to say.
Then there are times when he'd seem to want to play but instead he's annoying the other child and they would ask him to stop but hed just carry on.....
He teases his sibling a lot, annoying her, taking her things or jumping out to scare her or interfere when she is happily playing with a play mate.
I sometimes tread picking him up from school as I know at some point, we will all be stressed out from his behaviour.
The only times he is quiet and lovely is when he plays computer games or anything else he likes to do.
Our neighbours have stopped sending him birthday cards as one year he said the cake she made for him was sickly. He meant it was rich and he loved the cake! My partner explained as genuinely he did love it and thought it was rich but used the wrong word. His own auntie and uncle and chosen to go away the week of his birthday without asking us if we had any plans. All of this are my assumptions and maybe I'm being over sensitive but this is what it feels like to me . At a recent person in his classes birthday party, he was not invited but the other boys in his group did.
He has always loved watching tv or playing computer games to the extebt that if ge was left to play all day, he would. I used to restrict him a lot but found that it made him not desperate to play and angry when he has to get off. Now he can play a but everyday and it's much more manageable. He has a lack of interests, just games or anything physical like swimming, climbing trees etc, not anything educational as he finds it boring.
I am sad for him and I'm not sure how to help him. Please has anyone got any ideas or been in a similar situation and came out the other side all good?!
Sometimes I think it could be aspergers. As he does seem to struggle socially , even though he has a good set of friends, he seems to be the one left out sometimes. Like on school trips, he'll be the one who doesn't get to pair up with the friends he wants as they would've chosen to pair up with someone else. Or at birthday parties involving getting into groups, he'll end up with the people he didn't choose. He can seem quite selfish, very competitive to the extent that he'd go off alone to make sure he wins or does better.
Really need help but not sure How! Feel like an absolute failure 