Ok, so they can all be a bit feral at times, but DS is rapidly approaching 3 and he's turning into a really aggressive child.
Yesterday he bashed another kid in the face at nursery with a toy and gave them a nasty cut. 
This is the latest in a long line of incidents. I'm constantly having to keep him from hitting, kicking and generally jumping on DD (now a mobile baby intent on grabbing anything she can reach). He'll do the same to me. He won't listen, he'll apologise but then do it again 5 seconds later and while he can recite all the answers to 'how do we play nicely' etc, it doesn't actually change his behaviour. He gets told off and time out, confiscated toys if they're thrown, etc, but it doesn't seem to help.
Nursery have asked for him to have a special behavioural assessment. I think this means they'll generate some paperwork and I can then get him referred, but not too sure. That's if he lasts, as if things go on, I'll have to take him out of nursery as I can't have him hitting other children constantly! It's getting to the point where we have to avoid groups and playdates as I can't control his behaviour. Thing is he's worse if we just stay at home, and if we go out to the park he just wants to run off or tantrum.
He's a lovely, caring kid when he wants to be! But nursery have said it's more than just the terrible twos. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has had the same and if it was an indicator of future or wider behavioural issues? I'd like to get him help if I can, I'm just a bit stumped and scared right now, and feeling like a rubbish parent.