Do tantrums at 10mths mean even bigger ones during 2s?!

[Mij]

DD has always had, ehem, spirit. I like it, honestly, well most days. But now she's very mobile (almost walking) and our house is very small and full of too much stuff, we're having to say 'no' a lot. We put what we can out of the way, but we've run out of 'out of the way' places. She's throwing amazing tantrums if we say no, and when she can't get something to work properly (like getting a door open on a toy). At the moment it's quite funny, but I'm having little glimpses of us in 12 months or so time when she's heading for those terrible twos, being those frazzled parents trying desperately to 'ignore' the epic dramas their LOs are enacting in the middle of Sainsbury's!

Anyone reckon we've got a major drama queen on our hands? Or might she work it out of her system early . We're working hard at being consistent so as not to 'reward' the tantrums, but being so wee she's usually pretty easy to distract from them.

My DD is 3.5, she starting having temper tantrums at 9 months! Usually because she could not have a toy her elder brother had as it was inappropriate for her age - DS is 4.5 years older than DD. She has continued to have whopping tantrums, she is stubborn, determined, has unbeleivable staying power, she will go far! Characteristics not easy to cope with in toddlerhood - but great ones to have as an older child and adult. She is a drama queen, can cry at the drop of a hat, can be sweetness and lite - can batter her eyelashes, has numerous ways to try and win us over. Present one when she has been told off is - but your'e my special mummy! - But what can I say - she is like I was as a toddler - and to some extent is like me now, with the determination and strenght of character.

So all I can say is good luck!

Not necessarily. What frustrations they experience at what age, depends very much on the individual child.

Jaynerae, pmsl at your post. When I tell people how 'spirited' and independent she is, there's lots of eyebrow raising and loaded mutterings of 'can't imagine where she gets that from'. I believe I was a bit of a handful myself. Still am, in certain circumstances .

Bozza - sorry your message didn't load when I replied before. Yes, I'm sure that's true, and the environment they're in, and the way those frustrations are dealt with. Trying to keep a cool head about it to avoid self-fulfilling prophecyville. Easier said than done. Like most parenting.

I think it may mean that she grows out of it early perhaps
dd2 was hell with tantrums and being comepletely unreasonable from about 13 months and now she has just turned two, has lots of words and rarely loses it and if she does takes alot shorter time to get over it

Kama, what made me post this was our first proper 'falling out' yesterday, when her behaviour got the better of me for the first time and I just sat down and cried with her! Sorry you had a hard time but it's good to know it improved!

LOL yes but it will get better by the time she gets to 3 (in my ds's case)

no not really as my dd's tantrums started when she was 11m,it was not too bad..when she was about 16m she had a few bad tantrum and then that was it, now she is 2.5 yrs old.. she very rare have one now and if she did have one it be a small one.

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Mij (I assume you know that's the dutch word for me?) My dd1 was the same as yours. Mega tantrums from about 10months to 2and a half. She's now three and people comment on how calm and well behaved she is! But it's been hard work getting to this point - she is a spirited little drama queen who is very highly strung.

She's also incredibly loving and very very funny.

Hate to tell you this, but my dd started at 11 months and they continued until she was 6.

She can still throw a wobbly at the grand old age of 10!

Other than that she is a fine, charming funny v clever young girl!

Despir not, even the dram queens are worth it

Oh, I do love this place. Thanks mummies. Feeling lots better about it all.

Kiskidee, by the same people who did 'the social baby'? Will definitely check that out.

Belgo - nope, didn't know what my own moniker meant at all, but I like the translation! I use it because Mij was my favourite toy as a child - an otter named after one of the furry characters in Ring of Bright Water. How sad

yes by the same people

DS started at 10-11 months and is now 26 (nearly 27) months. I think they are actually a lot better now -- more difficult on one level because he's bigger and stronger but they are definitely less frequent than they once were. Also, now he's verbal I usually know what's set them off so that makes it easier to handle (except one time the other day when he just kicked off with a mega-tantrum in the middle of the street and all I could ever make out was that it was something to do with an elephant... ).

Now do you just live in a really exciting place Lemonaid, or does you LO just have a very lively imagination?

ds started tantrums very early.

Terrible twos didn't hit us as bad because
a) he could talk better and do more things so wasn't as frustrated
b) we knew how to cope with it and they weren't a shock. We were well practiced in what to do with a tantrum.

Ds = 2.6 and while still has them they don't tend to go on as long, and they constantly change (much more dramatic) and so we don't get bored by them