Hi, I could really do with some advice as I'm at my wits end.
Ds is nearly 7 and in year 2. He's very bright, articulate and previously loved school. He did reception in a different school and then we moved areas and he started year 1 at a new school. We never had a days trouble over the last 2 years and he was happy at school.
This year it's gone so wrong. He's developed a really angry, violent behaviour pattern at school. He's rude to adults and defiant against requests. He's starting being violent to the teachers by throwing things and refusing to join in. He regularly gets sent to the deputy head/internal exclusions and he still lashes out aggressively and rudely there as well. They say he's on the road to permanent exclusion.
When he gets home, he is devastated and remorseful. He says he is so unhappy at school that he wants to be excluded and now has started saying he wants to kill himself.
He comes up with lots of reasons why this is happening and all have been addressed in school. He has consistent rewards and punishments and understands the rules. But this red mist will descend at school when something goes wrong, often quite small to start with. He has a system in place to express his feelings but doesn't/can't in the heat of the moment.
He's mostly fine at home and generally well behaved and polite although I can see he has this explosive nature in him, maybe we can just read it better at home. He's always been brilliantly behaved in clubs like beavers, swimming and sport etc.
Please help if you can. I have no idea how to help him at school.