Where is my 5 year old learning this?!

[Bazinga1234]

My DS is 5 1/2.
He is such a sweet and caring boy. Very cuddly - I'm currently pregnant and he's asked for baby toys, a cot and a dummy from Santa.. and only two things for himself!

But tonight at bedtime.. he wanted to watch a film and he knows we don't let him watch a film on a school night unless he goes to bed early..

So this is what he said to me...
"You're a mean mummy"
"I wish you were never born"
"I wish we only had daddy"
"You should go to prison for being mean"
"I'm going to tell daddy how mean you are"

I don't understand where on earth he has got it?! He's never said it before.

I'm wondering if it's from school? He's in a class mixed with y1/y2.

Probably a mixture of school and his own imagination. It's perfectly normal, I wouldn't worry!

Other classics to look forward to include:

'You're not coming to my birthday'
'I don't love you'
'I'm not your friend anymore'
'You're a .....

I have had the whole "I don't love you" as well!

He's such an incredibly sweet boy, I don't like hearing it!

It's only to me as well. If I say "I will be telling Daddy what you've said to me", he apologises and asks if Daddy will tell him off!
So he knows it's not nice.

DH asks me to tell him when he says something like that because it's never around him and he is so fed up with how rude/nasty he can be. Only to me as well!

DH doesn't tell him off for it, he just tells him not to and it's not kind etc.

He definitely respects Daddy more than me.

If you use "telling daddy" as a thing, then of course he respects him, as you've taught him to be. You need to stop outsourcing authority, you need to have the authority or he won't respect you.

Probably he has heard it in school or saw it in some website. It would help to carefully guide him specially if his into watching online videos. It would seem that your son also respects his dad more than you. I guess it's normal for children to say that. I wouldn't worry so long as you discipline him the right way as he grows.

I agree with pp. When you say 'I'll be telling Daddy' you are giving his dad the authority. It will be compounded when his dad doesn't, in fact tell him off either. I'm a SAHM so I do all of the discipline during the day but I really avoid 'I'll tell daddy', I just deal with whatever it is there and then however I do insist that dp does every bit as much disciplining when he's here. There's no good cop bad cop, but a united front! My ds is almost 4 and has tried this out a few times (but to a lower level). He's said "I don't like you mummy" and I said "that's a shame because I love you and don't want you to grow up to be ill mannered". It's usually in response to being made to do something he doesn't want to do " so I don't take it very seriously! Also, between mine and my friends toddlers I've seen spitting, kicking, biting, hissing, planking, on the floor red faced screaming.....I don't imagine any of them learnt them at home!