Wingy child

[Rebeccaxo]

Hi all I'm at my wits end with my dd she is nearly 3 and crys at anything her day care teachers have pulled me up a few times and now want to speak to her health visitor about it as there now concerned that she's not developing emotionally properly she hasn't wanted to use the potty and there saying she isn't ready mentally for that bit she's a really intelligent child and I got upset when they had told me this but I do notice her doing it, it could be her little sister just standing near her and she's screaming or she crys so bad if she's getting wrong for something I just don't know what to do I'm tired of her day care always having something to say about her to me she's really a good child just the crying

Let them speak to the health visitor, it's a no brainier. You are still the principal authority and all the professionals are there to provide dd (and you) with a service so let them, you pay your taxes.

Is dd quite clingy too? Dc are intelligent and instinctive so if she figured out that you can provide her with everything she needs, on demand and in timely order than she has no reason to develop/challenge herself.

In a nutshell... cut the apron strings.

Maybe do it slowly by still acquiescing to dd's demands but counting in your head and making her wait longer and longer for her demands until she slowly but surely becomes more self sufficient.

If she has a lot of screen time I'd go cold turkey on the screen time though. (Including your screen time in dd's presence)

She does get screen time but only for bed time and she can tell me what's wrong to a certain extent but she just crys for the most petty things I've just been with her at her day care and she wouldn't even join in she just sat and cried or she wanted a bike and kept calling it her bike then found one and started crying like I've said above she's really bright but I just don't understand why she is doing this

How's her sleep?
Maybe she's not getting as good a nights sleep as you think and it's affecting her mood during the day
Also it sounds like she may need help with her confidence if she's getting upset with doing things wrong and not joining in
Has she been told off by an adult she's not familiar with recently?