how do you cope when your 4yr old dd will not stop talking.....

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... and it is driving me nuts - it is like I cannot have a single train of thought without it being interrupted by some nonsense that always contains a question so I can't switch off without her accusing me of not listening.

What do you do when they do this?

I wish I knew - mine is 6 and is just the same ! She barely pauses for breath from the moment she wakes up till the moment she falls asleep ! Drives me insane !

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i stick my fingers in my ears.

when mydd 6 does this I think about my niece31/2 who cannot talk properly through her mothers neglect and feel thankful that my dd can express herself when needed.

Hmm, I have the same, from dawn to dusk.

Isnt it like you have no space for one thought!

I sometimes tell dd 4, to play with ....., cos mummy needs a minute, or 2 to do something.

U have my sympathy!

Sorry,just she viseted with my mum this week and can't even say when she's hurt properly.She is improving under my mums care but it gets to me when I see her

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buy lots of books on cassette and give you and your dd 'time out' - ie put the cassette on and let her listen to the book

ideally in her room, or she could be beside you while you cook the tea/read/sleep

my dd hardly moves when i put these on
its like a miracle

she also does this to the ARchers

singmum my dd2 who is 4 chats constantly but most of it is an incoherant babble. but it still getsd on my nerves sometimes. I am missing it now as she is on hols with my mum.

nailpolish - i use the same method Works a treat! Also very useful for long car journeys.

We borrow ours from the library

the afternoon play on radio 4 is good too

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it really works

josie - i am also amazed at how much i like them too!
lol

misdee my dn started talking when 18mnths but when her mum started 'looking after her' she went backwards.Her mum used to watch tv while my dn was left to talk to her toys in her room with no interaction.She thankfully lives with my m&d and her father so is improving.

SM does she see SALT? dd2 has been going for over a year, it has helped and she is slowly making progress. hers isnt from neglect but just that she cant talk properly. think she may have had hearing problems at some point (glue ear) even though passed all hearing checks but she dd2 doesnt seem to feel pain etc we just have to judge by how she actually is.

I am enjoying 5 mins peace now as dd is wtching Charlie and Lola !!! Also Peppa Pig is good for some momentary peace here - although she soon starts giving me a running commentary about what is going on in them !

Hama Beads also give momentary break for me !

dh has cloth ears so it doesn't affect him so badly (he got the cloth ears when she was a baby and he needed to sleep through her crying !)

I really really NEED to think at the moment as I have somehow mislaid £1.5 million in my end of year accounting - and have to work out where it is by Tuesday !!!

she's waiting to see a speech therapist.Hopefully this will help

If it is getting too much for me, I start singing at her. It seems to distract her from whatever train of thought she is on, without being confrontational about it.

My other method is to say "Mummy needs to think about something quietly for a while, but I will talk to you later."

I remember someone saying "hind legs of donkeys are littered all over our house" and thinking that was a great way of explaining it.

My dd even talks to herself in the loo ! It is absolutely incessant!

we have kidsradio here in london too - don't know if it's elsewhere.

For older kids i set tasks - like find out 4 facts about dogs from kids book and then we can talk about it etc, little ones are often distracted by music cds - esp action songs.

Could always drag them to the playground, ta-dah! Kids entertained, stimulated and AWAY while you can think, read or chat

cbbc radio - big toe radio show can be downloaded

a whole hour of stories!

I rejoice in my dd endless mindless chatter
She had severe speech delay and was classed as non verbal until age 3
it's still a novelty

I dread being plagued by this - am expecting my first and as a first class chatterbox myself am fully expecting payback once this one gets to that stage. I drove my parents insane and all my school reports until I was about 12 years old said the same ´good student etc etc but MUST STOP TALKING IN CLASS´.

I remember once when I was about 5 my dad asking me why I talked so much and I remember vehemently explaining that I couldn´t stop myself, there´s just SO MUCH TO SAY!! I felt like I had so many ideas and thoughts and opinions and it was all so exciting, how could people possibly not want me to share them??!

Oh yes, my comeuppance is just around the corner. You all have my utmost sympathy. I don´t know if my parents ever found a way of shutting me up. Probably just fine tuned their ability to seem like they were listening when they weren´t. My older sister, however, would just suddenly look at me and say ´Are you STILL talking?´ that normally shut me up.

Oh i'm with you on this one
dd(4) drives me to absolute distraction...( worst is usually when i'm trying to cook). She'll help ...but she doesn't stop even then...and i end up just forgetting where i'm at all the blardy time.
A life-saver for me is music
She has a few cd's (lazy town/ disney stuff etc)in the kitchen which i put on when she won't allow me a second for my own thoughts. She sits on a stool nearby jigging and singing her little heart out. She's not so good on story cd's (asks questions over the top and does an alternative story) (!) but music works.
OOh ..it's good to know i'm not alone!

Maveta...my mum comes to visit and smiles and says 'it's pay back time' in a smug voice...i was exactly the same.

This is why in the evenings I wallow in blissful silence because I feel like my head is going to explode.

I work all morning, in a busy open plan office, and then I spend all afetrnoon with 3 yr old DS who talks...and talks...and talks...

Quite pleased really I guess he might not turn out ot be the strong silent type.

Cbeebies provides the only relief I'm afraid.

Go to the toilet and lock the door.

Get her to do a hama beading.

Give her a toffee.