Is this normal behaviour?

[Spinningpenny]

My 2.2 yr old has always been a forceful personality, and most things have seemed harder with her than my first child.

Over the past few
Months though, things have got worse. Absolutely everything is a battle, and she is strong, and I am pregnant. Below is a list of things that are a daily battle;

Nappy change
Getting dressed
Brushing teeth (has to be pinned down!)
Leaving the house
Putting shoes on
Getting in car seat
Getting out of car seat
Walking anywhere (won't hold a hand/wants to run off)
Won't go in buggy without a fight
Going shopping

Honestly I feel like I spend all day trying to negotiate with an unreasonable toddler and I'm losing

Is this behaviour normal for this age or am I doing something wrong?

I forgot to add the daily bath/bedtime battle to the list

not sure how much is ever 'normal' sometimes everything seems like a battle with children.
must be exhausting for you if always like this though.
don't really know what to suggest - why is she doing this - because she doesn't like to be told what to do / because she wants to do it herself/ because she isnt ready to do it / because there is something else going on that is distracting her ?
Its really tough cos it could be any number of things with the terrible 2's!
For me it was always a matter of picking my battles. so yes she has to clean her teeth - but perhaps she could do it herself?
no she doens't have to wear her shoes but she will have to wear her wellies or go in the pushchair if she chooses not to. if she doesnt want to hold your hand she has to wear reigns / toddler pack. Does giving your child warnings help? so for example 'in 10 minutes we will leave the house' in 5minutes we are leaving. everything is a negotiation and anything that does not become a battle is a win.
Good luck

I think it's a mixture. She likes to be in control and hates having decisions made for her, so I try giving her choices. For example I have 3 toothbrushes for her and ask her to choose which she would like to use. I let her choose her clothes etc.

None of this seems to make any difference. She just screams and screams if she feels as though she has to anything which she has not distinctly chosen to do herself. It's exhausting!

It's getting to the point where I avoid taking her out unless absolutely necessary as I know that she will have some knowledge no of meltdown and it's just too much hassle.

And warnings don't really help. Just gives more time for the rage to build up!!