Baby group sadness

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My lovley 13 month old boy is behind all the other babies at the baby groups I take him to
He's not crawling or pulling up or bearing weight on his legs and isn't eating any solids
We have a paediatrician appointment in October to discuss our concerns
It makes me so upset when I come back from these groups after seeing all the other babies crawling up to their mums for food or walking round around exploring everything
He's so happy and observant and loves going to these groups and I have felt no judgment from the other mums and will still be going
My mum instinct is telling me there is more to it that my son not being ready to eat or walk
Has anyone else experienced this and how did you stay positive x

We go a music class, when we were in the baby class they were all crawling by 6 months, my daughter would quite happily sit in front of me taking it all in. Now we've moved up to the toddler group they're all walking, and my daughter is crawling 😩 Like you I've experienced no judgement ( that I've heard) and we really enjoy it. But I know how you feel. She started crawling a few days before her first birthday and pulling her self up to standing the same day. She's 13 months too and doesn't bare weight. If you hold her hands to encourage her to walk she uses her tip toes. I too have a health visitor coming to visit next month and I am worried what's she's going to say

Is he using both arms equally?

Is he bum shuffling/commando crawling?

He's using both arms equally
No commando crawling and very very occasional bum shuffling and this is only a meter or so before he seems tired or bored of doing it
I suspect mild cerebral palsy x

I don't think you have anything to worry about Linzi14 she sounds like she right on track 😄
Hope the health visitors visit goes ok x

The best (and only) piece of advice from my Heath Visitor was trust your instincts. You're getting him checked out which is good 👍Hope all goes well x

Really agree with trusting your instincts and I'm so glad you've got an appointment. FWIW my DS did not pull up or crawl at this age but is fine now. I used to sit in a music group we used to go to and think there was something seriously wrong with him.

I know exactly where you're coming from. I felt this way since my son was 5mo. Just felt like my kid did NOTHING while all the other kids were so far ahead.

My son started commando crawling at 13m, just a few days after he started to go from laying to sitting vice versa. He didn't bear weight on his legs until 8m. He likes to be stood up and "walked" but we are def far from walking.

Our ped confirmed that my 14mo son is delayed and we were referred to a neurologist. The neurologist suspects he suffered a stroke in utero and also suspects he is hypermobile and has low muscle tone.

Anyway, not sure this helps but I just want you to know that you're not alone!!!

I'm in the same situation. My son is 9 months but is more on par with a 4 month old.

I avoided going to groups and going on social media for ages as I couldn't bear to see other babies. Seeing a friend fb posting their 5 month old sitting unsupported and I was depressed for the rest of the day. But isolating myself was not good. We are now going to groups and he loves them. I still find it hard seeing the other babies, but I'm not there for me I'm there for him. So I've put my issues aside. I try to consentrate on what he can do and the things that make him special.

My only issues is what to say when people ask his age. He's small so I could just lie and say he's younger. When I tell people he's 9 months I feel like they're thinking " does she know her babies not right".

Also please don't suspect the worse before you've had him assessed, and don't play Dr Google. It never helps. Health and development are so broad and if you look for answers on Google you always come up with the worse diagnosis and worry yourself needlessly.