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My son makes me feel miserable

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tryingmother23 · 17/09/2017 11:39

I love my son dearly but for the most part I just can't stand him. He is almost seven years old and causes so many problems, he is domineering, a wind up merchant, moany, aggressive, his behaviour puts such a downer on our family days. It is chronic. Our daughter is not like this, but my son. I feel like spending time with him is a chore and more out of duty rather than a desire. I have tried parenting classes, talking with teachers, social workers but he is just a pain in the butt. He is a dream at school or his dads house but with me everything becomes a conflict, even so much as asking him to put his shoes on, he will go...UGGGGGGGGGGGGGH FINE!!!!!!! OKAY!!!!!!!!! I am so tired of it, his behaviour has put a strain on my relationship, my emotions, it is incredibly draining and I feel mean for saying but when he goes to stay at his dads the tension in the house lifts, I feel like I count down the days till he goes, just because I know there will be no commotion! I hope I am not alone in feeling like this! I have a day out with my son today just one on one at a family activity class and I just feel like the thought of going is a chore, I don't even want to go! Spending time with someone who has just pushed me to feeling irritated is not something I want to do! How do I get over resentment towards my child?

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Ellieboolou27 · 18/09/2017 20:23

My dd is similar in terms of being hard work and at times I feel like you, resentment of spending time with her as emotionally her behaviour can be really draining.

From just reading your post may I ask is your relationship with new partner fairly recent? Could they be part of him acting out as he feels insecure? I only ask as my dd has always been hard work, but when dd2 came along it got worse and worse. I think she stilll feels very insecure and because she's closest to me acts out and takes her frustration out on me.

Kids pick up on our feelings, no matter how we think we are masking them. Dd asked me if I wished I'd never had children last week as I was so emotionally drained that I must of given off vibes! Shock

I think maybe you could try and connect with him more, play games one on one, a day out just you and him, I'm not judging as It's clear you adore him as you've taken the time to post and are worried about the situation. However you are feeling resentment at his behaviour (not him) so maybe he is feeding off this by acting out. Maybe he feels your more close to dd even though you love them equally.

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