Nursery informed me my 3 year old dd pinched a child badly today:(

[pastaybasta]

Quite upset as nursery informed me dd aged 3 pinched another child quite badly in nursery today. She started last week & had been in a different nursery prior to then. I'm quite upset, nursery said she seems to have "singled out" this child... I don't know what to do, they didn't tell me which child it was. Dd wouldn't give me any information despite having excellent speech..
Please advise me, scared dd is going to turn into a bully & I also don't want her to be labelled...

It's one incident. She is only young and sometimes things pop into their little heads and they just do stupid things. The best thing you can do is reinforce that hurting others is wrong and what to do if she feels angry or upset. Im sure the nursery wouldn't mind giving you tips etc if you ask.

Thanks for the replies, what sticks out is that nursery said she seems to have "singled out" this little boy since she started last week. Embarrassed that she discussed this in front of another mother that was collecting her child at the same time... but that is besides the point

3 year old children don't single others out. They suddenly lose their temper and whoever closest gets the sharp end of it.

I would consider moving nurseries just because she told you in front of another Mother!

Book a meeting with the manager and voice your concerns.

Thank you Mrs Over the road, I rang the owner this morning who was lovely. I started crying on the phone:( Can't move as we have just moved here from another nursery as we moved house, otherwise very happy. The manager said she will readderess all staff re the issue of discussing a child in front of other parents... We are only here a week, don't want to be seen as "that parent" either & for my dd's group leader to take a dislike to her because I complained....