My son is 9 and has aspergers, he is not an easy child but is very loving and is a joy to be around. My H and him do not get on. My H isn't very hands on so has never really had what i would call a proper dad/child relationship with him. My son adores winding him up he loves telling him he doesn't love him and saying unkind things. My son loves the reaction and my H will always react often with bugger off or get lost. I tell my son off and tell him it isn't nice to say these things but he says daddy is never nice to him and if he says these things daddy shouts and swears and he thinks it is funny. Hubby thinks a child should love their parents unconditionally and he shouldn't have to be spending time or doing stuff with him to gain his love. He never spends time with him and shows no interest in anything he does. So my son has worked out that if he says "I hate daddy" or something similar daddy will bite back and they can have a verbal argument for a good 10 mins. My hubby says I need to disipline him but I tell hubby to not react but every time he reacts and then it escalates. Any idea on the best way to play this?