3 year olds behaviour

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So my son is 3. He's always been a big cryer. He will cry over what I see as the silliest things. If he argues with his older sister, if he can't find a certain toy, if he's told to eat his dinner, if he has to wear something he doesn't want to, sometimes even if he just drops something. He has also been out of nappies for around 6 months and the last month or so keeps wetting his pants a few times a day and just doesn't tell me. Then when I explain to him that he must go to the toilet and ask him why he doesn't go to the toilet as soon as he needs to go he just says I don't know. His speech is also difficult for other people to understand and as much as try to do lots of reading and picture cards with him he doesn't seem to be able to prounounce many words properly. Hes very picky about foods and wakes up 3-4-5 times a night shouting for me for no reason. Someone mentioned autism to me, so I'm just wondering if anyone that's child has been like this and diagnosed with autism? Or anyone has any tips on how to make him not be so sensitive. This hole post seems like I'm moaning about him. I'm really not I just want to make him happier. Thanks for taking the time to read!

Hi. I know what your going through im in near enough the same positon although my son is now 4 and still occasionally wets himself and the crying and frustration is still happening.. Has he been referred to a speech therapist as sometimes if they can't pronounce words they can cry more... He also might just be a little more sensitive as that's the case with my son

The waiting list is up to a year for speech therapy so I try to do as much as I can with him at home.
I may just be over thinking things, the teachers seem to think he's fine at pre school but the constant crying over everything is becoming a nightmare. Specially when the baby is sleeping or in the night as he wakes the other two up.
Do you normally comfort him when he crys over do you tell him to stop?
Thanks for replying

Don't want to read and run but nearly school run time so I'll be quick.

My dd was like this, it took us a while to work out it was her form of tantrum. When we really watched her there were times when she would cry because she wasn't happy with what was happening, almost identical situations to friends who's children would scream or hit or sulk. Only our dd would cry, so it was a problem as people often are very sympathetic and she would end up with what she wanted because of it.

We took time to explain to her what she was feeling and why those feelings were ok, but not ok to cry because she wasn't getting her way. We explained crying is ok if she is sad, or scared or hurt, but not because others disagreed.

We would time her out for tantrumming but not 'real crying'. It took a while to sink in but worked well. Although it took a while for family members to realise that we weren't eyeing cruel, but they wouldn't accept it if she screamed at them or hit them and this was her version of that.

Sorry got to run now!

Weird enough the teachers have no complaints with him they reckon his fine he has started big school this year ... so maybe he just plays up with me as I think he knows hell get his own way eventually... I usually do end up comforting him as he is a breath holder and can cry to the point he holds his breath in and pass out so it's hard not to give in to him