I'm really worried about him and the amount of pressure he puts upon himself. Anything other then perfect is not good enough and as a result he's finding it hard to cope at school as he wants to be at the top but he finds it difficult. He's always put 100% effort in and as a result he has done well but now the work is getting harder and he's realising that his efforts aren't always getting the results he wants which is perfection.
He was stressing about going back to school after the summer break crying his heart out saying he hates school and that he's rubbish at everything etc. On the second day they did a spelling test on all the the previous spellings they learnt in year 4 ( they are really hard spellings) this sent his anxiety level s up as he said he did rubbish and he's stupid. He is already worrying about the work getting harder, home work and SATS. He has emotional outburst of anger or just melt downs at home. He attends a judo club outside school and he has the ability to do really well his coach has said he could medal nationally but again he says he is rubbish and he now wants to quit. His coach hopes to get a sports psychologist on board as he has said ds can't cope with anything but perfect.
Socially he is quite popular and seems to get along with most people. However he has a complex about his size as he is very small and always walks on his tip toes. He also is a stipler for rules and so finds it difficult to cope with when his peers cheat or don't follow them. He is a very kind and caring boy and always aims to be the perfect child /pupil which is impossible!!! I never ever put pressure on him so I don't understand it :-(