My baby won't cuddle, anyone?

[Jess87]

Hi, am feeling pretty depressed at the moment and wondering if anyone has any advice or has experienced this. My 8 month baby girl for the last maybe 4 months doesn't like being held inwards in a cuddle position on anyone's chest. She will squirm and push away to look around. I think it's because she likes to see what's going on and has always been very inquisitive... it's just so hard when she's upset and I want to comfort her by instinctively cuddling her and I can't because it makes her more upset. She will sit on our laps, she likes being held being walked around - as long shes facing outwards. She is smiley and giggles and has good eye contact it's just something that really upsets me when I see other parents having that bonding time of cuddles 😢 its strange because for the first 4 months she always used to fall sleep on our chests! A family member suggested holding her outwards under her belly to help with not burping and I think it's when we started to do that she got used to that position. Sorry if this all sounds silly, just hoping there's any other people out there whose babies don't cuddle??

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My dd is 12 months and has only started cuddling in the last 5 weeks. She's become very affectionate now but just wanted to explore so much before that she wasn't interested.

It was strange for me because my ds has always loved cuddles. They are all different.

Thanks for your message! That's made me feel a bit better 😊 yes they are all so different!

She cuddles into me and makes the sound "awhh" like she's giving me a love. It's very nice after waiting so long. You'll have it too, my dd did it out of nowhere when she started.

Aw bless her 😊 I hope so! X

My 15 month old just started cuddling into me, he's not liked to from about 6 months! Collected him from nursery ab he laid his head on my chest and shoulder, like properly giving me a cuddle of his own accord. Loved it. Don't be worried about it x

My 18 month old wouldn't cuddle from the age of 4 months until he was maybe 15 months old. He was just too busy looking around and learning about the world! It's the most wonderful feeling when they start to realize affection is actually pretty nice.

My 19 month old only started cuddling in the last few months. Before that she would get annoyed and just want to look over my shoulder and wriggle! Too nosy! Some babies just aren't that cuddly.

If it reassures you any my eldest was very against cuddles and such when she was tiny, would push us off, whinge etc because she wanted to look about and just have her own space I think. After she turned 2, she became the cuddliest little girl and absolutely loves to cuddle with us. I know how crappy it can feel not to have a baby who wants cuddles but it may all change with age

Ds was never a cuddly baby either, very cuddly from 2-12. Hitting teenage years now at 13 and cuddles are down to 1 a day on average.

My little guy is 9 weeks and is a bit funny about being cuddled and held. Sometimes he's fine with it and if jiggled he will fall asleep in our arms.. however if he is even slightly agitated, or overtired he will arch his back and squirm. I think he's actually getting a little better as the weeks go on.. but yeah, I'm also totally bummed out about the lack of cuddles

Miy DD was like this! Sounds like she's just curious and wants to see the world? There is a lot to see! If it helps, mine loves cuddles now so it did pass!