Fussy whinging 10 month old

[Mummystruggles96]

My ten month old is driving me insane she constantly whinges from the minute she wakes to the second she sleeps. She isn't clingy as such as when I do pick her up she fights to get back down but still cries and whinges. She's always been an awkward baby. Hardly drinking milk resulting in poor weight gain and having to offer little and often evey single hour during the day up until 7 months old. She woke every 2 hours day and night from birth - 7 months. And now started to wake again at least 2-3 times a night but can be upto 5-6 times. She now won't take to food. I've tried baby led weaning and spoon feeding and she will not take to it at all some days she may eat quite a bit and then go days without a thing other than milk. When she does eat she gets really constipated. She constantly fusses and makes this type of deep humming noise 24 hours a day until it then builds up into a full on cry. I feel exhausted from trying to stop this irritating sound she makes. I'm exhausted from broken sleep. Exhausted from not having a second to myself. It's got to the point where my partner now does everything with her and the sound of her just makes me burst into tears

I feel like my 10 month old hates me. All she does when in my care which is pretty much constant apart from maybe 1 day a week if that. All she does when with me is cry and whinge. Nothing i do settles her but when she's with her grandparents or dad she's as good as gold and the perfect child. Can she hate me? It seems like we have no bond what so ever. I just want her to want me and settl when I try to cuddle her or play with her but all she does is cry. I feel like I can't cope and like I'm starting to resent her and all I want to do is love her and be close to her.

Aw. I really feel your pain as my son was very much like that when he was a baby. I know how exhausted I was and how every day felt like a struggle. My heart really goes out to you.
Has she ever suffered from reflux (or silent reflux?) Poor feeding, losing weight, waking through the night were all things that happened with my son too. That was the reason that my little man struggled so much as the reflux caused him such discomfort. He would arch his back whenever we picked him up or lay him down. After lots of repeat Drs appointments, he was finally diagnosed and started Omeprazole (after gaviscon and ranitidine didn't work).

I'm not saying it is this but just a thought.
Please don't think for a moment that she hates you. I know when I was stressed and anxious, my son could certainly pick up on it. He had lots of daddy time too when I needed time out. I hope things work out for you.

She has never suffered with reflux or anything like that. She's been a very healthy baby despite the poor apatite. She never lost weight either just stayed the same or hardly gained any. She could only take 2 oz per feed and she would refuse anymore. No matter how many trips to see the dr I would just be told to Persist and feed on demand but make sure she was getting at least 24oz day. She never I was and i couldn't make her drink that she didn't want. All that's over now tho and she drinks milk quite well but now doesn't want any food. It's like whatever I do is never enough never good enough. She doesn't want to eat she doesn't want to drink sh doesn't want to play she won't let me change her bum without a fight she hates bath time she hates everything I try and do. Im so lost and so scared because all I want is to be a good mum to her but she's making it so hard and I'm feeling like I have to give up for her sake like she would be better off with out me