2 year old driving me bonkers

[Foreverhopeful22]

Omg I'm at wits end

She is normally a really pleasant and happy girl and for the most part she is being that until I need to do something

E.g. Change bum
Eat dinner, lunch or breakfast
Nap
Getting dressed
Brushing hair or teeth

Literally meltdown and NO followed by screaming not crying just screaming.

Today she was in timeout 7 times and dinner time ended up being put in cot.

I am at wits end.

There is no reasoning with her, you can talk calmly she screams louder, you ignor her she screams louder . I've been slapped and bitten

What the fuck has happened this has been going on since Sunday and I'm now so fucked off im dreading tomorrow and I mean dreading it . I love her so much but I honestly don't like her today she has been so bad, and it's getting worse

Someone give me pearls of wisdom ! I know they go through phases but this is ridiculous

I'm going through this too atm so interested to hear others experiences/advice

Thank god I'm not the only one! Although you have my sympathies

Let's hope someone has some advice

Anybody

You just have to ride it out and lower your expectations. She is still learning what the world around her is.

She'll turn 3 and it'll get worse and then once they get to about 4 they do start to learn consequences.

I personally don't think time out works at that age

Today she was in timeout 7 times and dinner time ended up being put in cot.
She's 2.

Way too little for that shit.

I think it sounds like you've been lucky to get this far without too many problems!! My 2yo is a bit better now but has been difficult for a very long time!

She will just be trying out what she can get away with, trying to exert her authority! Try and give her control when you can, give her closed choices (e.g. Do you want the blue shirt or the pink shirt?) and pick your battles! That doesn't mean be inconsistent but for example if she wants to wear her wellies instead of her trainers just let her. One less tantrum for the day!

Time out definitely does work for my little one. She goes to her room. Not very often though only when she's been really naughty. Used multiple times a day I think it might loose its effect.

I don't really know what I'm talking about btw!! Just some things that have helped me.

Thanks

The time out dose usually work

I will try closed choices and see what happens

Depends what you mean by it working I suppose.

It also can sometimes help to give advance notice of events, such as "5 minutes until lunch", or "now we will play one more game, then lunchtime".

It's called the terrible twos the tiresome threes and the fucking awful fours! If your 2 year old can understand time out already you are doing something right! Gin might help

Why I've never used time out.

time.com/3404701/discipline-time-out-is-not-good/

I never used time outs as when I was a kid I watched my friends younger brother throw the time out chair through the patio doors in a huff. I always wondered what the point was.

Titty - I appreciate the link but that is negative time out

Read this

www.positivediscipline.com/articles/positive-time-out

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/psychologybenefits.org/2014/12/10/what-every-parent-should-know-about-timeouts/amp/

So far it's been quite effective

Everyone and again if fails like at moment

We all have different approaches, I was asking for different ideas and advice on other ways of dealing with her not criticism about the things I have been doing because they are not necessarily what you do

Today she was in timeout 7 times and dinner time ended up being put in cot.

Sounds really positive.

I'd put a LOT less pressure on her she is only two. She's not emotionally developed enough to understand most of what you are expecting from her. You will probably feel less pressure yourself. Your child having a tantrum at two doesn't mean they will be belligerent when they are older. It's natural for them to express their frustration

Titty - other than this week it has worked well for last 6 months!

Again thanks for the tips - oh sorry you haven't given any just criticism

titty

Your a nasty horrible judgemental person

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Ignore titty op she's one vile human.
Always nasty and horrible to people

Titty - maybe you can suggest some alternative techniques to help the OP?

I've been going through the same thing with my 2 year old and find it is working well to make the activity more 'fun' e.g. for nappy changes making the teddy lay down first too, choosing a book for him to look at or giving him a wipe that he has to help clean his hands with

I've suggested lovebombing on the OP's other thread and naps every other day. Is that helpful enough?

Titty - yes you did suggest those things on my other thread about stopping nap

On this thread you have only criticised

Ruby - yesterday afternoon I tried that we bathed dolly and then when her turn meltdown

But I'll keep it going

Today I am taking her out again somewhere different

My dd has just turned 2 and seems to have dropped her nap

When she has a meltdown/ tantrum I try to make her laugh, sounds weird but working so far, I say the big grumpy monster is coming to tickle her and tickle / swing her up and all that, she loves it and forgets what she was bothered about.

Agree with a poster up thread, gets bad at 2, awful at 3, soul destroying by 4, but by 5 your on the home straight. Dd1 has just turned 5 so I can vouch that it's pretty accurate

Also you can't really reason with a 2yo it's more about distractions and bribery. I'm on the fence about time out, I'd rather dd be encouraged to deal with her emotions rather than be out in her room / on stairs etc.

Ellie

Surely distracting and bribing her isn't enabling her to deal with her emotions though?