Can my 2 yo have ADHD?

[heatherxo]

How do I determine whether he's lacking discipline or if it's something more?

Ds turned 2 in June. He is constantly on the move and only ever sits still when he's very tired or ill. He doesn't really show interest in things - will pick a toy, examine it, and then usually throws it. He shouts a lot and doesn't have much patience.
I dunno if this matters but - he has a "thing" for shoes. He will freak out if I take his shoes off him, and always wants to be wearing them. He's not too keen on clothing though, and tries to strip at every chance he gets.
He is quite independant and gets upset when I try to help him (if he hasn't asked). When he does ask for help, he expects it straight away and can get very upset/unconsoluble if I don't respond straight away.
He LOVES the tablet, and is always asking for Horrid Henry on Youtube. I don't give him the tablet much, but when I do I've noticed he won't sit and watch a video fully, or play a game, instead he flicks through constantly.
Is this attention deficit? Or is he just a "normal" toddler?

Hi heatherxo,

I am watching this thread with interest. I haven't much to add but I have a 3 (nearly 4) year old dd and have been quite troubled by some of her behaviour. This morning in the playground before pre-school, she couldn't (for safety reasons) get her own way about something and ran almost all the way back to the car (with me in hot pursuit). She too has little patience with things and will go into shouting mode quite easily.
She doesn't like to wear shoes much or trousers and yes, likewise will strip off (pre-school had to ask her to keep her underwear on). She is independent and extremely bright (I'm not trying to be boastful) but she has immense vocabulary saying words like ridiculous and horrendous when she had just turned 3 and her memory and attention to detail is fantastic. Like your son she loves the tablet but will sit and watch rubbish given the choice (about blind bag surprises and that sort of thing). She loves stories and being read to and her attention fixes on these activities, likewise playing with lego so I know that she can get engrossed with things but if she isn't occupied for example in a café - she will run absolutely wild - have seen children sitting placidly watching the world go by. I too have questioned ADHD but I am hoping that over the next year/into school year she will calm down and perhaps learning to read will provide a further stimulus for her? Pre-school don't seem all that worried at the moment so just watching and waiting (and hoping) that she will become a little calmer.

Oh and the other thing that bothers me slightly is that she has not had one birthday invite - not one since she has been at pre-school (a year now). Perhaps people have not had parties but I feel that she might be ostracised because of some of her behaviour OR I might be barking completely up the wrong tree and all this exists in my mind!