5 year old with a temper

[Shadow1986]

Hi all,

I have the most gorgeous loveable 5 year old boy, and previously on the very odd occasion he has thrown a big wobbly about something but he has gone CRAZY, but like i said very rare. We would put him in his room, let him calm down, he would calm and apologise and all fine.
More recently, he is argumentative and angry EVERY day...im worn out. I then loose my temper back, he gets even more mad, eventually things calm and we both say sorry but we keep repeating this same routine. I'm feeling terrible every day about it and think tomorrow I will try and stay calm, deal with it better but then the next day comes and he's straight at it again. Example is being mean to his siblings, winding everyone up, back chatting, saying things like 'this is the worst day of my life' 'I don't want to live here' and just really devastating things to hear...I end up ignoring, ignoring, then going ballistic and sending him to his room. He then usually slams the stair gate or door on the way which ends up with me in his room shouting at him.
I know calm breeds calm and I am a calm person normally...has anyone got any advice on how to discipline. I've taken his iPad away - permanently at the moment to see if electronics are not helping. I've tried star chart but he just kept loosing all his stars.

No advice from me sorry. But sympathies. I know exactly what you are going through. DD5 has REALLY been testing my patience the last few weeks. Over competitive, bossy, eye-rolling, back chatting and generally being grouchy and whingy. Its been so hard.

We've had several days with friends recently and its painful. She doesnt listen, I get cross, she eye rolls, I give a warning, she back chats, I lose my temper and then we are both at a stand off. With us both getting cross until she's screaming at me in frustration.

I've tried telling her I understand why she is cross so she knows I am not just flying off the handle. But she was doing something she was told not to. And had a warning.

It's the attitude I cant bear. Where has my lovely, sweet, bright little girl gone??! Thank goodness she's back to school this week...

Thanks for the reply Button. Do you think it's just them getting bored of us in the summer holidays?! I do hope my lovely boy comes back soon...its so tough. They are so frustrating. I think perhaps going back to school and having a break from each other won't be a bad thing!! Just hope it doesn't make him more tired and even worse behaved! He's an angel at school!

are you me?

I am at end of my tether with 5 yo DD. So angry, selfish and tonight said some very wicked things. I am so upset. such an ungrateful nasty attitude, backchat and the whining! The most badly done to person in the world.

I get so sick of the sound of my own voice, explaining, reasoning, removing devices.

I hate being a parent

Oh flimflam. I'm sorry you're going through it too. I hope it makes you feel better that I'm having the same problems....

What's got into them?! I'm suspecting mine is over spoilt , over tired, over bored and just ready to be back at school!

My two have been screeching a play fighting all day until one gets hurt, the other retaliates...but it's my son who has upset me in particular. Made me feel like he would be happier without me.

God I hope so!! I think we've done lots of days out, friends over etc and a return to some form of real structure wouldn't be a bad thing. At least I'm hoping it's that.

And this is a child who's end of year report praised her for her 'impeccable behaviour'!!

Even my raised eyebrow, cut 'em dead stare doesn't work anymore!

sounds very similar to my DS. I'm hoping it's a phase, can't help but think it's lots of little things we've done as parents. Maybe we've given him low self esteem through different ways, putting him down, - but I do constantly try to find things to praise him on, and he does respond, it's the attitude and the disrespect towards me and sometimes teachers, just mucking around and getting in trouble. He gets so easily distracted and I wonder how on earth they get him to concentrate in school.