I'm really not sure what to do.
My daughter seems to hate my husband. He's a loving dad and I can't see what he is doing wrong. Everyone says, 'Oh, it's normal for babies to prefer to prefer their mum' but this is different. She gives him a look of terror or hatred sometimes. She can be happy with me but if he picks her up she'll cry. Yesterday he tried to change her nappy in public and she screamed blue murder.
It's not all the time but enough where I get worried about even letting him take her as it may end up being okay and then make him feel a but better - or she'll scream or look for me and it makes him feel really bad. He's cried and been so down about it. I ended up crying when she did it when out yesterday as it was heartbreaking to witness.
We had this issue after her first set of jabs. It took about 10 days to die down. However, it's happened again after her 12 week jabs but seems to be getting worse, not better. I don't know if linked but it's not like it was a male nurse giving them.
My mum (who hardly sees her) can settle her and she's even okay with female strangers. She didn't like my dad either really but she does love my husband's dad. He is veey slight, timid and softly spoken whereas my husband and dad have deeper voices and beards.Im not sure if it's a testosterone thing!
My daughter is breastfed and because I was trying to build up a stash to go away for a night on a hen do (I'm a bridesmaid and also thought it'd be good for them to bond) we haven't given a bottle every night but would usually do so a couple of times a week.
I know the advice us for the partner to take over a fun part or a feed but if she's screaming then I don't know what to do.
She's also now refusing a bottle from either of us.
People say things like, 'Just leave them to it and she'll have to get on with him' and that 'she won't starve' but that feels like crying it out sleep training and I worry it will do more harm than good.
I do think taking away one night feed by him was a very bad idea on reflection. He also used to burp her but then I felt that I was passing her over for the shit stuff and not fair. He therefore doesn't have his own role but gas been involved where he can to soothe and play with her. She HATES baths so he can't do that to make things better.
Anyway, did anyone else go through such stages after jabs? Not sure if related or a coincidence. And any suggestions as to how to solve it? I never pictures tgis happening as my husband is so loving and has been a natural with other babies and children as laid back and calm. I just can't see a reason for her behaviour and it's heart breaking to witness.