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apeainapod · 02/04/2007 19:32

OK - so DS1 and 2 are completely different, as one would expect BUT ...

I have DS who is 4ys old who is a very sensitive little thing.

He started telling me last week that his friends are always asking him to do things ie: draw a picture, make something, 'read' a book etc. We had a sceduled end of term meeting with the teacher and brought up the subject. She said that DS is a very popular boy who is a natural leader in the class and he plays really well with all of the children. We were rather proud of him!!!!

However, today he has very sadly said that school is tough. Apparently people have their own friends and nobody wants to play with him. He says he doesn't have any friends. I know that when I was at school I was friends with everybody but didn't really have a very close 'best friend'. I don't want him to go through that because it can be tough. Do you think at 4 he will be affected by this? We live abroad where we are longer term than most, the new expats who come in are here for maybe 3 or 4 years maximum.

DS2 is 3 and complete bonkers - in a nice way of course!!! He is very confident, very independent and makes his own choices in life - not that he should IMO! He doesn't care if he's naughty or not, if I send him to his bedroom for 3 minutes - he'll turn around around and say no 2! He is not affected at all if he is told off. He really upset me today - so I asked him , do you care? and he said no . Anyone with any good book recommendations etc??? He really is trying me right now!

Thank you

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GooseyLoosey · 02/04/2007 19:57

My ds's nursery said much the same about him ie "popular, likes being in charge". Now I have watched ds with other children and what this actually translates as is him being bossy and they do not like it at all. Could this be the case with your ds - if so, I think they may grow out of it a bit as they learn how to interact with other children.

In relation to ds2, I find with ds that the more I argue with him, the more wilful he becomes so I now (when I am capable of rational thought) make a cup of coffee, pick up a book and go so somewhere he is not. If he follows me, I ignore him except to say that I don't like the way he was behaving and when he has stopped, will be happy to deal with him again. As what he really wants is attention, this usually works without engaging in an argument. Of course he cares - he just knows how to push your buttons!

apeainapod · 03/04/2007 09:40

Goosey - I think you are right about DS2 Thank you. I shall look into the other a bit more at school.

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