Out of control tennager

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To cut a long story short my 13 year old daughter has been sexually active with the bad boy of the school. I can't understand it as she has gone and goes to very good schools. To top it off she has been posting indecent images of myself and my husband ( her stepfather ) on social media. Nothing sexual but us on holiday in swim wear with willies drawn all over us etc my husband is not happy as he has a responsible job in the public sector. She has been threatening my step daughter ( same age) as it was her who told us of the sexual behaviour as my daughter had been boasting to her regarding it. I have a residence order for my three children with my ex husband having access rights. Anyway my daughter has gone off to my ex husband he has breached the court order and not returned her. He has told me I can not manage her and she's to live with him. My sons have told me my ex husband is spoiling her and basically bribing her life is better there. My ex mother in law trying to poison my daughter against me. I am at my wits end, if I get the police involved my daughter will refuse to come home. I am scared I am losing her, my husband says to do nothing and let her realise the grass is not greener, I have probably spoilt her too much 😢

How can I help her get into school ??

It sounds to me like a cry for help, I would absolutely put strict boundaries and consequences in place. It will actually make her feel more secure. I think you should get the police involved.

@troodaki I'm sorry to hear you're having to deal with this. It's a minefield. Perhaps start your own thread? I would suggest speaking to the safeguarding lead at the new school for support.

OP, I would advise getting in touch with her headmaster of her new school straight away.
Let them know the story, they will have safeguards in place.
I seriously think you need to speak to ur ex, and maybe come with an agreement for dd to stay there a while.
You are not losing her, she has simply gotten a bit lost, and no matter how
Hard she is acting, really when it comes to
It all she will want is u, she will return when she needs you. Encourage the ex to make sure she has to go to
School etc if he wants her with him he needs to take full responsibility too, and I'm sure once he sees ur dd at her worst, he won't be so
Quick to be the hero.
Cut yourself a break too, she sounds really hard work, choose your battles, if anything gets worse it may be that social services can get involved and work with u and the school to help her.
At least u are trying and not burying ur head in the sand, well done, I really wish you all the best of luck x

@Troodaki
I would suggest making a post of your own for your problem, you will get more specific advise, but I would highly advise phoning the police, there are safeguards in place an to post things online these days without consent especially of a minor, I would also contact the school to start with. Good luck