dd2 (4yrs old) asked me the other day if i would have another baby if she died.

[misdee]

because i wouldnt have enough kids. basically what happened was i was chatting to dd1 and dd2 interrupts and says 'mummy is growing a baby in her tummy'

'no i am not' says i, chuckling.

'will you have another baby mummy'

'i dont think so honey'

'but what if i die?'

'i wont have another baby if you die, i'd rather still have you'

'but you wont have enough kids'

'ok, but you wont die for a long long time, and i wont have another baby if you die'

'ok mummy'

anyone elses 4year olds come out with stuff like this?

I think they have the idea of an "ideal" family, misdee, and it is usually exactly like the family they have. When ds1 was 5 and we just had ds1 and ds2 he was playing at his friend's house and the friend's mum overheard this conversation
Ds1 : (Friend) your mammy is going to have to get a baby in her tummy
Friend: But I was the baby in her tummy!
Ds1: Well, she's going to have to get another one, you can't just have one!
for friend's mummy though, I did get the feeling that she had difficulty ttc.

Also my mum overheard him talking to my niece.
Ds1 : Where's your sister?
Niece: But I don't have a sister!
Ds1 ( sympathetically): Oh, did she run out on the road?
Oddly enough at the time most of the families we knew had 2 siblings of the same sex! He just seemed to get it into his head that that was the norm and had to be complied with!

Yes, today, in B&Q!!!

DS1 (4.7) asked me what would happen if he and ds2 died before we did. I just said we would be very very sad and miss them a lot. Then he asked what would happen if I died before he did. To which I replied that I almost certainly would die before him, but that he would be a big man with a beard and children of his own by then. Then he said "But what if you die while ds2 and I are still children?" (he pronounces it 'twildren'). I said that then Daddy would look after him, and Granny XXX, and Auntie XXX. He looked uncertain and said "Will they manage?"

Surreal, but it didn't seem to be really bothering him as such, he was very matter-of-fact

oh dd2 wants me to have another baby, she wantsa brother

glad to see other kids say this, dd1 never did. she was so matter of fact about it as well.

Aw Greeny, bless him! Wonderful that he thinks you "manage" better than anyone else could!

Yeah we have chats like this all the time. It's fine. I think children need to know that you and they will die, but I always tell them it won't be for ages of course. LOl at big man "with a beard" Greeny!

Had to explain to DS1 (7) and DD (5) what an orphan was the other day (in DS1's spellings). Relieved that I couldn't think of an eg we knew.