I'm wondering if anyone has got any ideas how to resolve these epic toddler tantrums. Ds is 2 years old and these are fairly common themes.
Problem 1. He refuses to sit in a supermarket trolley. I've tried being firm and just making him, telling him beforehand he's got to, he climbs out, screams the whole way round. I've tried ringing a toy or book, I've tried giving him something different to hold from the supermarket. I've even tried giving him a tablet to watch. I've tried giving him a snack to eat. None of it works. I never shop when he's tired or any of that. I know I could only shop online, but I've never known a child that doesn't love sitting in the trolley.
He'll occasionally sit in his buggy but sometimes I have the same problem. Also means I can only fill a basket full.
Problem 2, attachment to things. For example this morning I tried to wash his quilt. He saw me put it in the machine resulting in 20 minutes of screaming and crying, first trying to drag it back out then trying to open the washing machine door. I removed him from the kitchen but he kept screaming at the door.
I tried explaining that it's having a wash and will be back later, I tried to comfort him, distract him with other things, but he didn't stop.
This could be the same scenario over anything.
Now he's just had another tantrum. He got my car keys and was trying to post them out the door letterbox. I took them away and put them in a safe place, followed by a huge screaming tantrum and him following me round trying to drag me to get the keys which I ignored and just kept saying no. Then he hit me with the tv remote, which I moved out of his way, so that made him worse. He's eventually let me pick him up and cuddle him into calming down. He gets where he's gasping for breath.
Leaving the park. I regularly take the dc to the park, of course toddler ds doesn't want to leave, I try to give him warning 'one last go' type thing. He still kicks off hen we leave, trouble is he's big and solid and I can barely carry him when he's arching his back and throwing himself around.
He won't let his older brother do anything. If I'm sitting down with the toddler and his big brother sits next to us he'll scream and kick and push him away.
I know these type of tantrums and frustration can be normal, but he's so strong willed, he's big strong and heavy, he's loud and is a climber who can escape from anything.