2 year old behaviour

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Hi,
My 2 and a half year old boys behaviour is really worrying me.
He's aggressive to me and other kids although with other children it can start off with hug then lead to him pushing shoving and hitting.
He hits scratches, pulls my hair kicks me on a daily basis.
He refuses to hold my hand and walk nicely.
His speech although is not 100% he's just starting to link 2 words together "mummy's car"
He throws paddys and throws himself on the floor hitting his head of the floor or the door or the wall or anything in temper.
I'm currently 8 months pregnant and am really struggling I'm worried I'm not going to be able to cope.
I've tried reasoning with him and telling him is naughty, I've ignored the behaviour but still it continues. I feel like I'm being judged by other mum's constantly but I just don't know what to do for the best.
Advice wanted please I'm at my wits end.

Thanks :)

Sounds tough, I know this sounds strange but might he be picking up your anxiety of having a new baby?

My dd went though a stage like this when I had dd2, her anger and hitting were awful and I felt scared she'd harm the new baby. I found a lovely website called Ah-Ha parenting, it's American and can come across as being a bit soft touch, bit the tactics do work. It's all about empathising and teaching kids how to manage anger and behaviours. Also a book called playful parenting really helped. I've read lots of books on managing behaviour and this one worked best.

Good luck and prepare for things to get worse before they get better once baby arrives.

Also try not to be harsh on yourself with regards to what others think, up until recently I used to stress so much about what other parents thought of my parenting skills, especially when dd has meltdowns, she's 5 now and still does have them occasionally, but I know her best, I love her the most and I know what works most of the time to calm her down, so let others look or judge, just don't let what they think bother you.