Please help me understand this!
Very long and boring account of scenario with child follows. It's been a long day in week 4 of summer holidays - you know how it is! My 7&1/2 yr old pushes my buttons all the time - mainly with ignoring me / doing opposite of what I say. At bedtime his bed is trashed - pillows out of cases, duvet in a ball - whole room is a tip and it just annoys me. I straightened bed out and told him not to leave it in such a mess. As he gets his pjs on I find bits of dirty clothes scattered around room and tell him he needs to put them in washing basket not floor. As I speak he is tucking dirty clothes under the bed. Why I ask him - he doesn't know. As he gets undressed he is trying to balance on one leg to take trousers and pants off etc - wobbling all over the place, nearly face-planting on the floor. I've told him loads of times to sit down to do this. He has fallen over doing this stupid balancing before now. I am at end of my tether and tell him that if he can't get undressed properly (sitting down to take off trousers) we will have an hour of dressing / undressing practice tomorrow. Ok he says. "What have you got to do" I ask. He repeats back what he's supposed to do. Within 5 seconds he is doing exactly the same balancing. I lose it - shout at him that I have literally just told him not to do it and now he will have to practice getting dressed sensibly tomorrow. He says sorry and he won't do it again. He takes clothes to basket but has forgotten to take socks off. When reminded he stands in middle of floor on one leg and tries to take them off. Why does he constantly ignore what I'm telling him to do?
Why does it annoy the shit out of me so much?
This happens multiple times a day, every day with him and my 10 year old. Is - if I say stop pushing each other in supermarket, stop jumping on (broken from being jumped on) sofa, stop other generally dangerous rough housing on stairs etc they say they'll stop then within 10 seconds resume.
I feel like I am constantly ignored by everyone in my house - what can I do about it!?