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Ds Behaving Badly at Nursery...what to do..?

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FrayedKnot · 29/03/2007 19:31

Ds behaviour lately (he has just turned 3) has been pretty atrocious - for him - and now he is behaving badly at nursery.

He has also started making comments like he doesn't want to go, the morning is very long, and similar.

He is at nursery 5 mornings a week from 8-1, while I am at work, and has been there for just over a year, with no problems and seemed to be very settled.

I spoke to the nursery manager today briefly and his behaviour sounds as though it is getting disruptive. Refusing to co-operate, arguing, not doing what he is told (e.g. he climbed on a chair and was asked to get down, he did but then did it again immediately afterwards, etc), today he was stamping on toys, and was asked to stop, and again, continued.

I'm sure it is fairly standard boundary testing behaviour but nursery seem concerned (maybe because he has never been like this before?).

I am wondering how to deal with this. I have asked them to use a time out as he usually calms down quite quickly when separated from teh group, but then it requires one of the staff to supervise him and leave the rest of the group.

If anyone has any thoughts on how to nip this in th bud...I have not had a proper discussion with nursery about it, jsut talked in passing at pick-up time, but if it continues, will go in for a chat.

His behaviour at home has been awful too, and I have used time out for the first time recently.

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Bambiraptor · 30/03/2007 13:17

He sounds similar to my ds who is also 3. His behaviour was pretty bad at nursery - not sharing, pushing other children .
I had a talk with the nursery staff and we came up with the simple plan of giving ds a smiley face sticker when he had behaved well.
If he behaves well for the week, he gets a special treat eg chocolate buttons on Friday.
It has worked really well so far.
I think at this age children do start to push boundaries and it is normal 99% of the time. It is embarrassing for us parents though. I was mortified when ds started pushing other children.

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