help with my 4 month old

[ashleexex]

My son is 19 weeks old, my other half works a lot full time so it's mostly just me taking care of him.
I love doing it but recently it's just turned and he's a completely different baby.

He used to sleep for close to 9 hours when he was just a few months old at night and have lovely hour naps throughout the day.
Now we're lucky if we get to 3 hours of a night and 40mins naps.
All he does throughout the day is wine and moan and grunt and cry. I'm struggling to enjoy him when my life is just constantly trying to calm him down and reassure him. He's bottle fed and usually feeds every 2-3 hours but recently will not take a full bottle in one sitting. He'll have 90ml and then want another 90ml or 120ml an hour later.
I'm at my wits end and I'm really struggling coping with how demanding he's got. I know babies are demanding but I feel like this is so much more. He feeds every half hour - an hour, will fight his sleep all day long! & when he does manage to fall asleep he will wake up with 30-40 mins and that's only if someone is rocking him, he isn't sleeping at night and basically will only be entertained with a toy for a few minutes before he's crying again.

Please help, if you can. I'm willing to listen to anything.

They go through stages, although it can be very tough at the time. Probably next month, it'll be something new and you'll have forgotten about this stage.

Or it might be that something is bothering him. Have you changed formula for example? He might be teething (it can ho on for months without teeth appearing in my experience). Maybe he's just off colour.
You can always take him to the GP for advice.

Also, it can be utter hell having a baby. You just have to get through each stage. I promise, things improve and change all the time. X

This is known as the 4 month sleep regression. Both of mine were an absolute nightmare at that age, up every hour through the night, nap refusing although 5 minutes before they'd been napping like champions, wild-eyed with sleep deprivation through the day. The good news is that it should only last a few weeks at worst and once they're through it they're often easier and happier than ever.

Grit your teeth and get through as best you can. Get your OH to help with nights for the duration. Try not to instill any new problematic sleep habits if at all possible (e.g., do your best to stick to whatever soothing practices / bedtime routines etc you were using before, even if they don't seem to work very well any more). But mostly recite to yourself 'this too will pass'!

Mine are 3 and 1 now, and nothing has been so hard since

So good to know. Thank you, I just need to keep telling myself it'll pass! It's hard at times you get so caught up in the moment and think it'll never end, when he finally falls asleep it's such a relief! I'll ride the storm thank you all so much.

I haven't changed his formula,no! I have a feeling teething is apart of it also. The teething powders are a god sent 👍🏼