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Disciplining a 3 year old

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whenyouwish · 13/08/2017 20:55

I've been really lucky in that my almost 3 year old has always been really really well behaved.
I've got many many years of experience of working with children but I'm having a brain freeze as haven't worked with preschool children for a couple of years now!
Since she's broken up from preschool for the summer her behaviour has been really difficult. She's not naughty, e.g. She doesn't draw on walls, or destroy things or hurt other people, but I'm really struggling with her not listening, trying to bargain with me and her attitude.
Recently I've had to tell her over and over and over again not to do something, for example tickling her brother. She'll do it repeatedly until he gets annoyed so I'll ask her to stop, tell her to stop, explain why she needs to stop, threaten her with time out and then eventually she'll push me so far that I end up shouting and physically have to pick her up and move her away.
Same with asking her to do any task lately, e.g. Can you put your shoes on, or can you come and sit at the table. She'll bargain with me and say "when I've finished playing" or "when this tv programme is finished" and I'll end up asking her time and time again until I physically have to pick her up and force her shoes on or physically carry her to the table. I give her 5 minute warnings if she needs to stop playing but it makes no difference.
She must say 100 times a day "I want to be a good girl" but then doesn't listen, plays up, haggles with me, tries to rule the roost etc.
She's also really whiny probably because she's bored not being at school and she'll sulk and strop every 5 minutes. She's also become extremely bossy and demanding.
Does anyone have any tips for dealing with this low level annoying behaviour as it's sending me potty! I need to get a plan together and be consistent!

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laura6032 · 14/08/2017 19:57

I have same problem with my 3 year old ds. Since nursery finished for summer he's been a nightmare, will not listen, exact same thing thing, I'm busy mum, watching TV mum, or nothing! It's driving me mad, I'm not sure what to do, I have completey banned TV today, he's started hitting and being very rude now too. Hope it's a phase x

whenyouwish · 14/08/2017 20:27

Thank god I'm not the only one! It's so frustrating! She's been a bit better today but I've noticed from about 5pm onwards when she's getting tired she's horrific at listening! She just had bath time with her brother and must of splashed him in the face about 10 times even after having a time out whilst soaking wet in her room. She just loses the ability to listen, or just thinks "sod it I'm not doing as I'm told"
Only a few more weeks til preschool!!! Think positive!x

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laura6032 · 14/08/2017 21:04

Nursery starts back Thursday, it's only 3 hours, but God I need it, lol x

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