5month old's behaviour doesn't seem to be typical 😞

[Endlessworries]

Hi everyone, I am worrying myself to sick as I think my 5 month old is not things which he should be doing.

1. He doesn't make good eye contact. Seems to be interested in our clothes rather than faces.
2. Doesn't respond when called, If focusing on something (his hands or some toy), you can literally scream in his ears with him not even bothering to respond. While, he does respond a little when he is not too focused on doing something.
3. Obsessed with his hands. Always looking at them or flicking fingers.
4. Doesn't feed well. Not interested in food/bottle. Only feeds while sleepy.
5. Doesn't gesture to be picked up or makes noises to get our attention.

Positives:
Give a big smile whenever our eyes meet.
Laughs at funny noises
Gets excited when a toy is presented

I know I sound like I am overthinking. However, I can't stop myself from worrying. Everytime I type above listed things in google.... I become sure that my precious little boy might be autistic. His paediatrician also agreed to my concerns and would evaluate further at his 6month visit.
Anyone here with any sought experience with autism? Any suggestions as to what I should do? Does he sound normal?

Hey- I think you may be expecting a little too much at the moment :) he sounds like a typical 5 month old to me.

My 6.5 month old has only just started screeching /making noises and doesn't ask to be picked up. He too will get sidetracked on things and ignore us!! I just figured it was him being a baby.

Remember all babies develop at different times and rates, don't get too hung up on it (easy to say I know/ I panic a lot!)

1. Some do, some don't. Mostly they like that light just above your shoulder.
2. Much too early. Start worrying about 10/11months if he still doesn't.
3. Just realised you missed this out!
4. That not only is totally normal, but when dd1 was little listed as developmental stage. Great sign of normality.
5. Some do some don't. I have one brilliant feeder, one who was only interested in feeding when sleepy and nothing more interesting was going well, and one who was a vigorous and effective feeder, but wasn't that interested in it until hungry.
6. You're getting way ahead of yourself again. Pick up gesture is older. Dd1 was 7/8 months when she did it and was the first of her baby group to do it by some way (she was distinctly average on all milestones apart from that, which is why I remember it). Dd2 only did it after about 10/11months when it meant the extra height could get her somewhere she shouldn't reach.

Stop worrying, and step away from google. It sounds like he's suffering from what my doctor calls "totalus normalus".

Why has he got a paediatrician? I'm assuming that he must have some other issue for them to be involved, which makes it normal for you to be worrying more. But I really don't think there sounds anything out of the normal. And smiles with eye contact is a major plus.

Hi, I think you are right.
He had really bad reflux & was screaming the whole house down day &night until about 3 months. This is why he has a paediatrician. Also, he didn't made any eye contact till then. Possible that he is just a bit behind?

OP, any updates?

I don't think I know of 5 months who did half the things you're expecting of him at that age and some of these were very early talkers and very clever. Just keep interacting with him and playing with him and pick the right moments to make eye contact with him such as just after a bath/changing nappies etc. I suspect it will all come on its own but if he's not doing the above by 1 year then maybe talk to your HV.

OP you may find having a chat with your health visitor reassuring. How did the 16 week check up go?

This thread is from 2017 so I don't think OP will reply!

Duh

? Why did you ask for an update on the 16 week check if you thought it was so obvious OP wouldn't reply

I asked for an update as my son is doing the same thing. I know it's more than three years old but sometimes people do respond to update.

Aware this thread is from 2017 but just to reassure the person asking for an update this is entirely normal behaviour for a 5 month old x