DD won't speak to her keyworker at nursery

[dollybird]

Have been to parents evening at DD's nursery and her keyworker told me that DD won't talk to her. She talks with two of the other staff and with the children and has plenty of friends. She's 3.7 and starts school in September - what if she won't talk to her teacher??

Did she give any reason why she thought this might be the case? Is she like this with any of your family?

mine was the same, turns out it was a great game, in her eyes... caused lots of worry though.

She is very shy away from family, in fact she's like a totally different child. I believe she's never had any kind of tantrum at nursery. With us she's only just getting out of the terrible two's! At home very confident, chats all the time, role plays etc and a lot of this they never see at nursery.

what is her keyworker like? is she very big, loud and bubbly? there is one like that at my DDs nursery, she is very nice, but overpowering for many of the children and there are a few who won't speak to her!

No, she is quite quiet and the two DD speaks to are more outgoing (but not overpowering). I would say actually that she seems less of a 'natural'.

dolly I wouldn't worry about it. She has plenty of friends and talks to other staff - who knows why she won't talk to her keyworker, maybe she's nervous of her, maybe it's a quiet power struggle or something; but it shouldn't affect anything, I was always told that the keyworker is the named worker to complete paperwork on the child, it doesn't mean the child has to be in the keyworker's group every day or go to them if they're upset or something...I understood kids can go to whoever they're comfortable with.....

if it became a real problem maybe they could change her keyworker, but it sounds like this may not be necessary.....

don't worry about school; she will do a huge amount of changing these next few months and it probably won't even arise there. Your dd will probably cut her coat according to her cloth; there'll only be one adult to go round and she'll probably be only too glad to talk to them!

there a kid at school who wont answer hsi name at the reigster ffs

Orville, why 'ffs'? Good for the kid I say, have a bit of fight against the system How old is he?

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Thanks sunnysideup - you're quite right and I'm sure if school have any problems they'll let me know. I think it's that old issue of her being so young to start school (4 on 31/8) bubbling to the surface again! Even though she is desparate to go and join her brother!

Wow, she will be the youngest in the school won't she! My ds is early Aug birthday, so totally understand. At this stage last year I was so FREAKED by the thought that my 3 year old toddler was going to be at school the same year....it is weird.

However, school will no doubt be fine for your dd as it has been for ds, who has settled wonderfully; it's you who are traumatised! Good luck x

I know she will. DS started in September and he is 31/5 so surely three months can't make THAT much difference? thanks for advice everyone.