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Wheeze79 · 06/08/2017 21:23

I don't know where else to turn.
I'm so ashamed of how my son is behaving. I just don't feel I can talk to people in real life.

My son is 9, only just. We are on holiday and he is being so very very awful. He's having the most monumental tantrums. Screaming, kicking things, rushing towards us with clenched fists, slamming his fists down on tables.
Im sitting on the balcony sobbing as we've come back to the room early as yet another night has been ruined by his tantrums.
He has burst into tears, stormed and blamed us when he has lost a game of pool, even if we were there. It's like a red mist descends and he just screams and is aggressive (but not violent - if that makes sense)
This has happened multiple times on holiday and before too. It's just getting worse. I feel sick with anxiety about his behaviour. I hesitate (and hate) social events because of him and I am just so so at my wits' end and so utterly miserable.

I feel such a failure. I do t know why he is being like this or why he acting so badly. I also feel a failure as I don't know how to help him.

I just had to get it out somewhere.

Thank you for listening.

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 07/08/2017 20:42

When yiu say it's happened before, has he behaved like this much before your holiday?

Ferguson2 · 07/08/2017 21:13

He probably feels vulnerable being away from home. You all probably built up the idea of an 'exciting' holiday, and now he has got overemotional over it.

Where are you, and has he got his own toys, books etc?

PosyBear · 08/08/2017 12:45

Have a look at this book. Apparently it's been life changing for lots of people - and it's not just for ASD/ADHD.

The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0062270451/ref=cmswwrcppapi_rpAIzb551HC1Q

I feel for you very much and hope this helps and that you get through the holiday.

PosyBear · 08/08/2017 12:47

I realise of course that this may be new behaviour and you aren't at the stage of finding such a book useful.

Wheeze79 · 11/08/2017 15:44

Oh thank you all for your kind and helpful comments. We've had patchy internet hence no reply until now.
Things are a little better but in answer to your questions it not new behaviour exactly but it is far more extreme than normally seen.
I will take a look at the book.
Thanks xxx

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