Mummyish 3yo

[Dashper]

DS is 3.9. He's always been quite mummyish but tonight DH said he doesn't feel like he ever gets any happy time with him and it made me so sad. DS has also said he doesn't love DH (though I think that's more a case of him exaggerating feelings, which he seems to be doing a lot recently).
Is this just a phase that will go? Can we do anything?
For back ground: I was a SAHM until February, now work 19.5hrs a week. DS has been at nursery school since January, spends the rest of my work time with MIL. DH is out for work 10.5 hours 5 days a week but has had long periods at home (though not recently) as he is a contractor.

Anyone?

Dh needs to start doing something fun once a week with ds, I have fond memories of my dad taking me swimming then for ice cream on a Monday evening. Make it part of the routine, don't be tempted to go along yourself and be positive about it if he's not very keen to start off with. Choose something that ds and dh will both enjoy and be relaxed with: swimming, junior cinema, Saturday breakfast at the cafe, visiting a local farm, trip to the library, soft play, park.
Start at an hour or so then build up once they've got used to it. The key thing though is that it ALWAYS happens so ds knows to look forward to his time with daddy.

Thank you. That makes sense. DH does his share of the general parenting so I hadn't thought of a specifically positive thing.

Hmm. DH thinks not. They do have plenty of positive time together, just not set activities. It's the overwhelming preference for me at times that's the problem.

Ok, well he complained, you made a suggestion, he rejected it... Over to him to make a suggestion or stop complaining.
For what it's worth I think children go through various phases of preferring one parent over another so it could all suddenly change again in a couple of months.

Out of interest, why is dh resistant to the idea of a little regular "treat" slot during the week? Seems an easy enough thing to ask?