4 year old, is this normal?

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Hello, just wanted to see if this sounds normal to other mums of 4 year olds. My DD is extremely bright, very verbal (always has been), yet her behaviour can be awful. She's really lovely and sweet, then something doesn't go her way and she goes insane. She gets very angry, sometimes she will hit!!! She also doesn't really listen to anything myself of my partner ask her to do, unless she wants to do it. For example, we will go shopping, she will run off, repeatedly, we chase after her if she doesn't respond to 'stop!' ...We will be walking past a park for example, if we have things to do and I say we can't go, she runs off into the park....If the TV is on then it's time to turn off, sometimes it goes okay and sometimes she has a full on meltdown!... bath time is hell, bed time is hell. Lots of tantrums, screaming if things aren't how she wants them. When I talk to preschool, there are no issues. They say she listens, engages etc etc. I was wondering if she had ADHD but reports from school suggest otherwise. I find her very impulsive. I'm knackered.

Anyone?

What happens at bath time and bedtime exactly?

Bath time, screams about something.
Mainly the water being the wrong temperature, or that she doesn't want a bath. Bed time, messes about, often until it's too late for story time and then screeching commences. It sounds sensory, but I don't see it replicated anywhere else!

My extremely bright 7 yr old was like this at 4 and she still has her moments now. Apparently it hurts when we brush her hair and up until the age of 6 she used to cry when her toe nails were cut. I think she has some sensory issues and also gets very anxious about things (there was a real palava at the dentist this week). My friend tries to reassure me that it is because she is bright that she behaves like it - she says that she is constantly thinking about all the possible scenarios in her head, I'm not convinced! It can be exhausting!!
Same as you, she holds it together at school and they think she is great but the tantrums at home are another level. I occasionally think she is probably further along the autistic spectrum than most and wonder about investigating it. I have mentioned it a couple of times to various gps and hospital drs as a possibility. When she was 5 the gp wrote to CAHMS but we just got a letter back saying we needed to go on a parenting course [hmm. I think the school would think I was mad if I said she was autistic but I worry that it will become more obvious to others when she is a teenager.

Sorry I have not been much help but you are not alone!

DesperatelySeeking2016 - thank you for your reply! Sounds exactly the same as my daughter. Toe nails are also an issue. Food takes sooo long to eat as well, she's very fussy!

Other than that, she's very sociable, has friends and is a leader at preschool. She also plays well and has a great imagination. When I spoke to the preschool they looked shocked. I felt a bit stupid!

She had a truly amazing memory, a large vocabulary and can grasp a lot of concepts a lot of year olds, can't.

I actually did a parenting course, she's one step a head and totally understood what I was doing. I spoke to the HV and she just think she's incredibly bright and says bright children are more difficult to manage.

Wow loads of mistakes typing fast there! You get the gist!

My three year old is exactly the same. She's very bright and as a result I think she gets very frustrated-her behaviour in the last while has been very challenging (hitting, going mental when we say no to her, fussy eating, poor sleep, anxious about the littlest things, poor concentration) It's exhausting so I feel your pain!