Long hair on boys

[Raindancer411]

Hi all

Not sure if right place to post, but what are people's thoughts on 4/5year old boys with longish hair.

Son has always had hair around his shoulder length and everyone always said it suits him. He has always been my little surfer dude.

I always offer for him to have it cut short but he likes it long ish. I have the hair dresser coming tomorrow and asked him if he wants it done.

I showed him two photos, one with a short hair and one with long hair, shaped shorter around his neck than he has now (Similar to the young boys hair in the first Jurassic park). He has chosen the latter as it's still long but looks more boy like.

Thing is, lots of the other parents are always on at me to get it cut short (some do say it suits him and don't cut it).

I feel pressured and not sure if I should force him to have it cut short but if he doesn't like it after, I will be the one living with the fall out until he gets use to it, or it grows again.

He starts year 1 in September if that makes any difference (I have seen other boys in year 2 with hair his length)

My friend son (11) has long, flowing locks, often held back by one of his sisters hair bands!! He likes it, and doesn't care. She is less keen...
Other people are not his parent. Maybe smile airily and say " he likes it!" And just keep smiling til they shut up - how rude of them to comment! Why do little boys have to have short hair? Lots of older males don't. I understand the pressure, but honestly, people need to mind their own business and realise it's 2017. Good luck in yr decision ...

I think it's absolutely fine. I have a friend with a long haired 5 year old boy and she gets some strange comments though. Her son has lovely hair and doesn't want to have it cut. The most annoying comment, which she has had several times, is that he would be more comfortable with short hair so it isn't fair on him. Apparently it's ok for girls to be uncomfortable but not boys! Bizarre and infuriating. (Regardless, it's bollocks. I'm perfectly comfortable with my long hair!) Just do what suits you and your son!

I have been accused of its me they wants it long, and not him, and it would be so much better for him to have short hair. How handsome he would look!!

Bloody hell!! Can you move?! Sounds awfully uptight and 1950's. Can a boy not be handsome with long hair? This says loads more about them than you. What about girls with short hair, can they not be pretty with short hair?!
If you don't mind me saying, they sound like judgemental idiots. Your son will always be your son, stay true to him and your relationship, don't pander to these people.

It's rubbish raindancer, just ignore. Whose to say kids with short hair don't have short hair just because their parents want it that way. Kids are generally not too invested in their hair in my experience! It's hair!

Thanks again :)

I had short page boy hair when younger as a little girl and didn't scar me lol I shall just see what they say when they see the new haircut which is still quite long lol

I know loads of boys with hair longer than that, DD has shoulder length hair, and almost everyone assumes she's a boy. like Zvandelle I wonder if you are actually posting from a small 1950's town.

lol no, the town isn't very 1950s, but I think it's just as they always had their boys hair cut from a young age in the standard cut, they expect it of everyone... my son was never keen on the hairdressers and I didn't push him, and the longer hair always suited him, so I never worried.

Once you get into schools, I find it can be very much judgemental. Very opinionated in what they think is right...

It's like they think they know my son better than I do at times!