Worst mom ever - food/milk power struggles

[AlCookie]

Hi guys

I feel so depressed right now. My 5 year old just left for school and I am crying like crazy

He just wont have breakfast. No matter what I give him. Milk is also something thats never been a favorite. Rest of the day he eats just fine but mornings are horrible

He weighs just 14 kgs and I cant let go. I want to put the breakfast on the table n then do nothing. He should eat if he wants to else he can go hungry - but I just cant let go!!!!

I yelled at him and I think that is why I am crying. I made him feel miserable and now I feel miserable

Alternates to milk dont really work. He is very tiny.

I feel hopeless. Actually milk is a major battle ground and has always been so.

Have you tried almond, hemp or soya milk? he might just genuinely dislike the flavour of the current milk. Also yoghurt could be an alternative?

Also I neglected to say that you are not at all a bad mum. You're doing wonderful! you being upset over yelling at your son and worrying about his eating habits shows that.

You need to take the pressure off.
Change the dynamics of breakfast. Is the morning tense and rushed? Is there something you could do to make it fun and relaxing?

Get up earlier, breakfast in bed on a character tray? Take off to the park with a basket full of goodies for a picnic?
Could it be that your DC just doesn't like the breakfast type foods? Try mixing it up a bit. If he wants fishfingers and pasta for breakfast and he eats it, why not?

Relax about milk. He can Source the nutrition elsewhere. There is a star chart showing calcium content of different foods that a HV / nurse can give you. Take a multi vitamin too?

Maybe he is just not ready for breakfast.
Better might be a big morning snack plus lunch another snack, dinner and supper before bed?

What does your DC like to eat? Start with that list and vary the time of day you offer the menu items and slowly introduce a few new things, going shopping together to choose.

Could he be lactose intolerant? I was as a child.. and would just refuse milk. I could eat other forms of diary but not milk. Have you tried a piece of toast and yogurt for example? I remember being forced to drink milk in the mornings too.. and it was really bad as I really couldn't stomach it... :(